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male
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30-35,
*angey
writes:HiWell, i have a problem.Im 15 years old and kinda have the nack to get alot of girls.I can talk to them for a day and theyre whipped on me. The girls that are my past call me slut but thats not the point of this question.So i go out with them a few times adn we kiss and whatever.We keep talking and i begin to like them, thinking "yeah.. i really like this girl"So the time comes for when they want to go out, i think about it and happily i become their boyfriend and via versa.Asoon as i agree with it, i regret it.i cant help it, i just feel held down and stuck. I usually neglect them (which im not proud of) to get them to stop liking me so we can slowly fall apart.It hasnt really bothered me until now, i met this girl, it was the same as the others until i dumped her. Asoon as i dumped her, i regrtted it even more then going out with her.She gave me a second chance and i di the exact same thing. finally she came around to telling me she still liked me adn would give me another chance, but i really dont wana blow this one.I liek ehr so much, and really would go out with her but i know ason as i do ill regret it!What do i do? she wants to go out again, but i cant explain to her that asoon as we go out i wont liek you.Please help! I probly dont deserve this last chance but i would spend a very long time with this girl if i could.thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2009): It sounds like you have "commitophobia", Gangey. You are not alone and hardly unusual. A lot of guys (blokes) are leary of close friendships or relationships with girls, even the ones they like a lot. I would advise to just cool it on the "girlfriend/boyfriend thing and just be friends. "Going out" together for a date does not mean a commitment, for goodness sake! If a girl wants to be your "only one" after just a date, then she is being too pushy and not very mature. Don't feel you have to promise such a thing. People your age need to associate with different people and learn to enjoy things together...without the "commitment" thing. You are really much too young for that. So are they. A lot of "games" are played by everyone at your age. Some can be hurtful. Try to avoid being hurtful. Tom.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2009): stop being a coward. you like the thrill of the chase and the attention - are you that insecure?
if you want this girl, then change, stop being a tart. just enjoy the strength that she gives you and this will grow stronger with time.
Star.x.
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