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*ancelover98
writes:My boyfriend and I always seem to be arguing over stupid things, and it always seems to be my fault. We have been together for over a year and I hate to see him feeling like he's being treated like crap, knowing that it is mostly my fault. Granted, he is to blame sometimes, but it is mostly me. I always say that I'm sorry, but he needs more than that. How do I show him that I want this relationship to work? It's not easy to change who I am as a person but I understand that I have to change for this to work, even though that will take time. I need advice on what to do in the mean time, how to keep this relationship going. He suggested spending time apart for a week or two but I think that that sounds like a horrible idea, but I agreed to it in the end to try something his way for once. I always feel selfish and want to stop this. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (6 November 2015):
 The thing is - and this is true for both of you - when you love someone you accept the whole package. You love people because of their foibles, because that's what makes them who they are. Never expect to change someone. As Jung said, water flows down hill. In other words people are who they are. You have to accept your boyfriend and he needs to accept you.
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reader, Mina_Bhamji +, writes (5 November 2015):
 Do you have any insecurities or any problems you feel within yourself to why you are the way you are with him? Sounds like the relationship is suffocating. Space might be good, you can sort out your feelings and reflect on your behaviour to better the relationship during that time.
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