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writes:I'm having a few problems with my girlfriend which are quickly becoming big problems!Since New Years we have spend only 2 nights apart from eachother, and it's gotten to the point where I am less enthusiastic to see her, and want a bit of time to myself. But when I've discussed this with her, the only conclusion she comes to is that I've gotten bored of her. We are both at university together, and I found out last night that the reason she's been around me so much lately is because when her course starts to load the work on her again, we won't have as much free time together so she is making the most of it now. While I think it's really sweet of her, I still think we are spending too much time together. Am I being unreasonable? If so then why might I feel this way?Another problem is our sex life at the moment. For the past week or so I have lost my sex drive. We have attempted sex 5 times in the past week, and I find that either I'm unable to have an orgasm or I lose my erection. This makes her believe that I'm not attracted to her anymore, which really upsets me. On top of the other problem, this is creating even more stress and my manhood is really taking some heavy too. I don't know if any guys have had this problem before, but it's so deflating. I feel pathetic and miserable because of it.Me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 1/2 months and we have never had these problems before. They are really starting to put a strain on our relationship and I could really use some advice. Please help me!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 January 2010):
The stress is what is getting to your sex drive and such. So address the stress, perhaps ban sex and tell her you need time to yourself because you're stressed. Also, it's normal to need time apart. I think you need to explain to her that you need to have some time for 'man' stuff, such as going out with friends and playing pool or something. If this continues, then warn her that she is endangering the relationship.
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