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30-35,
*ylassie10
writes:I have had something for one of my former high school teachers for a long time. I had a crush on him in high school and kept in touch throughout a couple years after I graduated. He gave hints that he would date me too and actually said something about it a year after I graduated when I went to visit him but he said, "What am I supposed to say..o this is Megan and I met her at school?" I had emailed him and told him how I felt and he said he wouldnt want to jeopardize anything but said maybe in a few years, I'll run into you at a club. I had kept in touch with him up until last summer. We were going on vacation the same week in Jersey and I had asked if he wanted to get together and he said yea. He gave me his number and we had talked over the week but I felt like he was nervous and made up excuses not to see me because he was afraid of my parents knowing. He had said o lets get together back home, it'll be easier...i never heard from him again. I have went on dates and even got seriouse with someone else recently but this guy never left my mind and I would think of him often. TOday I was stoppd at a traffic light and someone beeped at me in the car next to me..it was him. I couldnt believe it. We rolled down our windows and had a brief conversation and he asked if i was in school and how Ive been and then he asked me if I was married yet. I said no and hes like, you close? and I was like nope and then I asked him and hes like no, you know me. We didnt end it any special way but i cant stop thinking about it. I have thought about him everyday of my life for almost 5 years even through my serious relationship I never had him completely out of my mind. I was angry with him that I felt like he was making excuses but I guess as a a former high school teacher, he was afraid of my parents finding out.Does anyone believe in fate?..I know I want to take this as a sign because feelings are still there and if he were to ever ask me out, I would say yes in a heart beat but its just too crazy of a coincidence. Should I have hope that something could happen in the near future and that he'll contact me or should I just write it off as a weird coincidence and not think anything of it?...BTW he is now 29 and I will be 21 soon. The age difference is not that bad now. My last boyfriend was 29.
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reader, mylassie10 +, writes (1 December 2010):
mylassie10 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi. I know this is sooo late but I haven't been to this site in awhile and didn't realize that the anonymous male reader responded but if you get this message, I appreciate what you said. I had wrote him and kept it casual and said hey it was nice seeing the other day what do you have planned for the summer? He kept his answer short with no substance in his words so I just said I hope you have a good summer and that was it. I haven't spoken to him since so he doesn't really care to take the chance but I know I'll find someone someday who will.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2010): I'd say regardless of what I said about fate go with your heart...if you feel something about this man even though there is risk involved of him running from you give it a try.
Just be lighthearted and fun make it like it wouldn't bother you if he doesn't respond like you want him to even though deep down you want him to embrace your thoughtfulness and kindness.
I hope you don't get hurt and don't put to much value on this one man but it's your call and I wish you all the good that can come from it.
It wasn't to long ago I came across someone I felt we were meant to be together. I know what it feels like in my case it really felt weird and creepy in a good way and I really mean a good way in the way I was feeling toward this lady.
I looked the situation over and yes all my ducks were lined up and it would be overlasting love it really seemed we were meant to be together but in my case I had to walk away and move on and I didn't like it one bit either.
Just guard you heart is all and if that is you in that picture goodness you are a pleasure to look at and appear intelligent as well so you won't have any problems finding someone if this doesn't work out the way you envision.
Keep us updated.
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reader, mylassie10 +, writes (18 June 2010):
mylassie10 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm tempted to email him and just be like
"hey it was nice seeing you the other day, how are you" and just start off casual but I'm afraid because if he doesnt feel the same, he'll be like o no shes bothering me again. My parents dont have a problem with it. They were with me on vacation last year and knew that I liked him and wanted to meet up with him and they said I'm an adult and I'm old enough to do what I want. I just feel like I've always been the one to email him or make an effort to meet up in the past and I just wanted him to make the effort for once but I doubt he will so I don't know if I should reach out again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2010): I think you should go for it. Confront him and tell him to stop making excuses. He thinks being involved with you will stir up something with your parents. But if your last boyfriend was 29, they shouldn't have a problem with you and him dating.
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reader, mylassie10 +, writes (18 June 2010):
mylassie10 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey guys. Thanks for taking the time to answer. I understand what the anonymous male writer is saying. I'm not going to waste a lot of energy on this. I thought that if he were to think about it, he would contact me within a few days after we saw each other. He should still have my email so there is a way he could get in touch. He hasn't but I'm going to go with the saying that what's meant to be will be and if we're supposed to try it out, he'll contact me or we'll meet again. It's just a nice thought. I'm just in shock because I never thought I'd see him again. The chances of us running into each other by chance are slim so that's why I just thought, what are the chances of that especially since I still like him, we both are single and he had said a few years ago, maybe I'll run into you at a club in a few years, even though we were in our cars.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2010): The problem with believing in fate if the one you are attracted to doesn't feel the same way your out of luck sweetheart and it just ends up being a nice dream of yours that never gets fullfilled.Is there a update on this situation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): Oh, that so cute. Believe in your instinct, if you think that you two are meant to be, then you have to chase it! You are so brave, I never had the guts to keep in touch...:(
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reader, Volleyball6 +, writes (16 June 2010):
I belive in fate. I think that you two
are star crossed lovers and he doesn't wamma
admit it or make
the wrong move ya know? Never give
up on someone u can't
stop thinking about
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