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writes:I had been dating a guy for a few months and at first things were absolutely perfect. After a few months of dating we had our first arguement. After that he became distant towards me and I distanced myself even more. After a couple of weeks of hardly speaking to one another, we saw each other in person and things immediately seemed to pick up where they had left off, well at least for a short period. He had a trip scheduled and right before the trip he became distant again, this caused me to request a break. In reality I was hoping that he would give an explanation as to his actions, but instead he just stated that he still wanted to remain friends. This is a guy that used to go out of his way to contact me in the middle of the night because he couldn't sleep with the thought of me being upset about something... this is a guy that said I was by far the best girl he had ever dated so far... could he have really changed his feelings after one meaningless arguement? Or is he a jerk that wanted to make sure he didn't have any attachments before his trip? Or is he playing hard to get? I'm not a desperate girl hard up for a date, in fact its quite the opposite, yet I can't seem to shake this guy from my mind. It's been over a month, should I contact him, or should I let him initiate contact?
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reader, Mara74 +, writes (23 July 2008):
Mara74 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for the advice. I've decided I will not contact him. After a little bit of thought, I realized I am way too good for him and he will soon realize what he let get away. Everything happens for a reason and in my opinion, it was nature's way of letting me know that it's time to move along to something new and more fulfilling. Thanks again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2008): Don't contact him....He sounds a little wishy washy, and you deserve far better. He may very well be a good man. But I don't think he is ready for a woman like you just yet. He just may need a little time to grow up, and miss you for a while....that way he knows what he is missing. Best of luck Chick Pea!!
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