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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Alright, well, I've got these two friends. They have been currently dating long-distance for 6 months(Soon to be 7 months on the 25th of July). They meet each other every break of school they have. Example, Summer break, Winter break, and Spring Break. And the male of the relationship, is my best friend. I've been worrying about the female of the relationship though, because she has been showing a lot of signs of being "clingy".. Before this couple had started dating, I would help my best friend, lets call him .. Jacob, (age 14, turned 15 half way through relationship), with problems he would have, while trying to get the girl, lets call her.. Stacey (age 16, soon 17), to go out with him. (Those aren't their real names by the way)During the time where they had barely started dating, they weren't too clingy to each other, and would respect each others privacy.(Do know, this is internet wise, so they were first internet friends at first, then they met for a day, then started going out on Christmas). Jacob was my best friend at the time, and still is today. He would usually go on calls with me, on an IM called Skype for maybe an hour or 2 a day. The three of us, Jacob, Stacey, and me, would all be in a call together most of the day, since the three of us were really good friends. Everything was good and happy ~The female of the relationship, Stacey, has some depression issues though. Her family and school life, is not very pleasant. Eventually, she would become overly "clingy", at least from what I think. If her significant other was gone, for half the day, or busy, she would become depressed the rest of the day. Jacob, the male in the relationship, would try to comfort her as much as he could, and would stop what ever he was doing, and go into a call with her over Skype, to try and keep her happy.Recently, about a month ago, I had developed a crush on Jacob, who is still my best friend today. I would sometimes get jealous of Stacey, because she would constantly be in a call with Jacob, which left me little, to no time at all to talk with Jacob. About a week ago, Jacob and Stacey have been trying to go for a 24-hour call on Skype. I was fine with it at first, of course, just knowing they were so in love with each other and all. But, a couple days after attempting, and eventually reaching their 24-hour call, they are still constantly, 24-hours in the call. Last time, 7-20-11, Stacey had to go do some stuff, which had let Jacob able to join a call with me and others. I wasn't in the best mood, considering feeling kind of bored, and a tad alone all day, so I didn't really talk. He was just mumbling to himself, and would sometimes say " Murrrr, wheres Stacey, she should be back already.. " Me, since having a crush and him and all, I got a bit irritated, since he usually says that he misses her and all, left the call, and soon later, went to sleep. Today, I had asked to call privately with him, and he just said " I love Stacey :) " which, he soon after told me that was his answer to being in a call with him. I told him it was fine, and understood why. He told me that Stacey would start getting sad/depressed if he were to join a separate call with his friends, after an hour or 2. Quote " I know, I kinda like the fact that she is clingy though. It kinda shows how much she loves me " I had told him, maybe you guys should like, have some privacy time away from eachother every once in a while.. He responded, quote " I want to do everything with [name] though "Also, note, recently, they have talked about getting married once the male hits 18. They have actually talked, about wanting kids in the future too! The male has actually offered, to buy the female, a better laptop too, which is worth almost one THOUSAND dollars! Just to make her happy, because her computer has recently been frying.. Which led me to a couple questions.. Are they too clingy, or do I think this because I'm jealous? Do you think they will last?
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reader, JJ27256 +, writes (22 July 2011):
 Maybe Stacy is too needy and Jacob is too giving. You should be supportive and tell them to spend time and talk about their relationship.
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