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*kimberlin
writes:I hit my gf and i lost her. i have been through men's non vilonce class's and i also see what i have lost. So my question is if you had a bad temper in the past but you are getting older and see what you have lost cause of it can you go the rest of your life and keep it in control. Is there couple's out there like that and if there is where do you go to talk to them. I fill so bad this happened and i love her to peace's. I am going to therapy myself and want to be a better bf. Thanks for your help chris
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2010): I did have a problem. I didn't hit but I would damage things and throw them. I really tried to look inside myself and find out what got me so worked up. Sometimes the right buttons were pushed and sometimes nothing at all. A couple of bad events really stood out in my mind and I didn't want to dwell on them and I swore to myself to change. With time I got better but I'd always have it in the back of my mind. I learned to cope with the fact that I may have destroyed my relationship. I learned the hard way and I didn't want to let another girl get away from me because of that reason. I know its a difficult time and I know it hurts. People change for different reasons. If their is enough pain, they learn enough about what they want, and they receive enough that they can change. I would recommend hitting everyone of these aspects to make long lasting change. Surround yourself with people that help you fight your addiction. May be ruff but watch a video on violence in a relationship/marriage. Force yourself to see the pain that someone else can cause on another. Get information about it and get help. It looks as tho you are putting in the work to make change already. To make it stick keep reminding yourself until your attitude changes.
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