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female
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anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,Im 18 years old, casually dating a guy that's 20.Now one thing im unsure about is whether he is actually interested in me.I met him at a friend's birthday and we got on well as friends so we swapped Blackberry pins so that we could talk on blackberry messenger (bbm).Since her birthday (16th September) me and him have been talking non stop on BBM. We have met up twice since her birthday. Both times we went to the cinema to watch a film.On the first date he didnt make any moves other than put his arm around me on the way home whilst we were on the bus.Three weeks later we had our second date, where i got to know him more as we went into the city to watch a film and on the journey to and from, we were talking.Again, no moves were made but he did start feeding me icecream in the cinema which i found cute.On the journey home we were just talking, etc.. and as we said goodbye (as my bus stop had come before his) he gave me a reallllyy tight hug and I got off.About 10 minutes later he messaged me on BBM asking me if I was home yet and that he had fun that night.So i replied saying "Yes i'm home, and I had fun too. Maybe we can do something different next time"..And with that, he asked me if I would like to go bowling. So I said yes, but a day hasnt been chosen yet for when we're going to go.. So i just have to wait to see if he gets back to me on that.Now the reason im unsure about whether hes truly interested in me is because I've never had a boyfriend before. I have casually dated guys before but only 2, and it didnt last longer than a month. Seeing as its already been over a month with this guy. I dont know what im supposed to expect or do.It seems to me like hes interested but at the same time i feel like hes disinterested.To be honest, i'd very much like a males opinion on this. A females will help just as much too.But im very inexperienced and I'm hoping the vibe im getting from him is correct and that he doesnt just see me as a friend...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): He sounds VERY interested, he seems like a gentleman. Perhaps you are used to pushy guys who try to get physical too fast. Respectful nice guys typically wait until after a few dates to make their first move. He doesn't want to make you uncomfortable by rushing things. He is probably nervous. GIVE IT TIME.
If he's calling you and making plans for other dates, he enjoys your company. He wouldn't do it if he didn't. Please don't try to make the first move, if you get rejected its a horrid feeling. Let him be the MAN and take the lead. Things are progressing nicely. We women need to learn how to focus on whether we are into a guy during the initial dating phase and NOt whether he likes us. Let our men DO THE CHASING!
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 To me it sounds like he's interested, although he could have thrown in a kiss so we could be 100% sure. You've already had 2 dates, and he's talking about a third one. He's followed up and called you after these past 2 dates plus there's been physical contact. I'd say he's moving slow because that's what he's comfortable with...It also couldn't hurt for you to put effort in physical contact as well. Casually grab his hand to hold. Don't always rely on the guy to initiate physical contact, otherwise you'll be waiting forever. I'd ask him on this third date what is he looking for in you, a friendship, relationship..
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