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writes:So, this past year, we had Austrians come and visit our school. It's tradition to spend the whole week with them and just have fun. There was one in particular, who stood out for me.. and I wanted to get to know him. I didn't know where it would go, but I wanted to see what he was all about.One night, I hung out with him and a few other people, but it was just him and me, really, walking around, talking about everything. I was so comfortable. His English was amazing. And I learned that he wasn't actually Austrian, but that he was half Russian, half Chechenian. Which I thought was pretty cool.He was very outgoing, and I loved talking to him. But I didn't know what his intentions were. He wasn't flirty at all. I thought he was disinterested. For sure. But then he told me he was Muslim. Everything kind of started to fall into place. Then he added me on Facebook before he left to go back home. We've been talking every day since. This was back around March 25th.He admitted to me that he really did like me, but he's not good with girls at all. And he didn't want it to get too intense because of our distance (obviously). But we couldn't help it. We skype, and it's the best.Nobody has ever made me feel as cared about and as respected.. he's just so genuine, and I never come across people like this. I don't want to open my heart to anybody else, cause I feel like I'd be settling. As unhealthy as it is.Now here comes the Muslim part. Of course, I told my family about him, because he makes me that happy. My family is ultra-conservative, anti-Muslim. I am conservative too, and I am not an idiot. I know that in some Muslim cultures, men marry American women for citizenship. Because of this, my mom thinks that's his only goal. She thinks I'm being manipulated.First of all, he's never even kissed a girl. Never thought about children, or marriage. We didn't even know it would go this far. But we can't help talking to each other. We've changed each other as people. Positively. We're each others' support and guidance.But, all-in-all, my parents disapprove. Even though he is the sweetest, most respectful human being I've ever met. Not once has he tried to force his religion on me. I told him I don't believe in any gods, and he continues to talk to me. Even though that's a sin in his religion.I'd love to just go and see him again. And he can't come here just yet because his passport expired and he can't go back to Russia. So it's up to the parents.Are they being irrational because he's Muslim? They do not even worry.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (9 July 2010):
 It sounds as though your parents are incredibly biased, and fail to realize the generalizations they make don't apply to everyone.
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reader, tss18 +, writes (9 July 2010):
 i think they are being irrational. it shouldnt matter what religon someone is. but if there so worried just be carefull with him.
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