Are the lives we want too different to stay together?

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I'm really confused, i've been with my boyfriend nearly 4 years, but i'm starting to think that we want different things. I'm 20 and he's 24, and whilst I want to travel and concentrate on my career for another 10 years before starting a family, he wants to be a 'young dad' and have one soon. I still love him, but am I stopping him from having what he wants? Should I break up with him? He's not at all interested in travelling or "enjoying our youth", he just wants to get married and settle down. He's told me he'd never break up with me, but I upset him when I say that I don't want a family for ages... I find it really difficult because he means the world to me. What should I do?!

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A female reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 February 2008):

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