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writes:Dear Cupid, are stretch marks a turn off to men? I'm a woman who is very tall at 6 foot 1. I went through a huge growth spurt in my mid teens which gave me a huge set of stretch marks on the middle of my back. I mean there's a lot of them. They have only faded very little so they are still very noticeable. I've only been in one relationship and he said he didn't mind them, however, because it's been bothering me I asked a few male friends and they said it was definitely a turn off/not attractive and that they like clear and pretty skin.So how do guys really feel about stretch marks? Mine make me feel really insecure.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 May 2015):
 Bio oils are good for fading stretch marks too.
I agree with the anon male who said there is 6 foot 1 inch of you to know and love - the stretchmarks shouldn't be important.
If a guy has problems with stretch marks (btw guys get them too) they are NOT for you. Guys who think EVERYONE walks around airbrushed needs to wake up and face reality.
Even models have them.. take a look at this link.
http://aplus.com/a/model-chrissy-teigen-instagram-shows-off-stretch-marks?so=zHpRrMUzrm5awf6dcBdafb&ref=ns
STOP comparing yourself to some fake standard. BE you. Be the AWESOME you, you ARE! Stretchmarks and all.
BTW, my 15 year old had a growth spurt last year and ended up with some stretch mark, she is OK with them, because she is OK with herself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2015): You should talk to a dermatologist and find-out what is the best remedy. Growth spurts during puberty will leave stretch marks, and for the most part they are permanent. Just like when you rapidly lose weight, the skin just doesn't always have the elasticity to keep up with it.
The most you can do is drink plenty of water, use cocoa butter, rub vitamin E and good skin cream on the stretch marks to keep the skin soft, elastic, and supple. There are specialized creams for stretch marks that are effective, but they can be expensive.
What it mainly comes down to is; you have to learn to live with them. There are far too many people making their whole lives miserable by dwelling on their imperfections; which are facts of nature. There are droves in our population, a slave to their insecurities. Nobody wants to be strong and self-confident. Only the narcissists, on the opposite end of the spectrum, seem to love who they are.
Everyone has scars, birthmarks, and imperfections. We can't hold and/or compare ourselves to unrealistic standards of beauty; which is unrealistic guidelines set by marketing strategies created by the cosmetic industry. Who use tested psychological manipulation to induce insecurity in order to sell products. Most women prefer to unfairly blame their insecurities all on men. Don't start that at such a young age. I'm fed-up to my eye-balls with that sexist man-hating bullsh*t!!!
Asking if men are turned-off by stretch marks is too broad of a question; because the question has to be directed to the man in your life. You will likely get a politically-correct response from most guys you ask; because they will not always be honest about it. Some are, and some aren't.
Can you forgive and ignore every physical imperfection you see on a guy? You'll say you can, you may even think you can; but you're human. Some you can, and some you can't. That is the reality of life.
You are at a critical point in your psychological growth and development. You can't start drilling fears and insecurities into your head that will add you to the statistics of people who unjustifiably hate themselves for what is "normal!" Stuff that just happens, and they spend all their lives hating life. Your happiness, mental-health, and quality of life depends on YOU accepting who YOU are. Not worrying about what other people think.
That is a quagmire you just don't want to slide into when you have barely been on the planet that long. Life is really too short to be spending it under the weight of insecurity and self-hatred. It's becoming an epidemic among young people.
Create your own immunity to the self-consciousness you feel about it. Do what you can about the stretch-marks; but learn to accept them if nothing works. There is a lot more to you than your marks. You're a whole person. Not just the parts you unfairly decide to pick apart about yourself.
There is always...I repeat always, someone specifically meant for you; who will love you for every crease, wrinkle, mark, and dimple you have that nature and genetics dealt you. Love being yourself first, that's how you become loveable to others. You will meet many different guys over the course of your life. They will differ in their opinions of what attracts them to you. You will not like everything you see about their bodies either. Should they feel bad about themselves for that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2015): so theres a whole fantastic six foot one of you and you worry about stretch marks. Be bold, be brash, be you. You can rub stretch marks with vaseline or other stuff like liquiid petroleum and it doesnt cost much, you can get in the sun and tan up, you can stop asking men about stretch marks because they are not important at all.You are the whole package, mind body and spirit..some one will probably want to tickle those marks with a peacock feather one day..but make sure theres more to your relationship than that or all stretch mark fetish ticklers will be bombarding you on face book, so keep it a secret for now,just between you and the sun.
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