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writes:Wow. As someone who usually offers advice I'm really desperate for some. My boyfriend and I are going through a rough patch and I'm scared it's going to ruin the relationship. My boyfriend let me make his facebook password and said I could get on his anytime. Now I know it was nosy, but I was curious just to look at his inbox and saw an email from his ex from 2 weeks ago. Now I know 2 weeks ago is kind of a bit but he said he would stop talking to her and he didn't. And then he sent an email to another girl saying "hey sexy". I know it might not sound like a big deal, but he sent it last week. And maybe he is just friends with "sexy" but I don't feel its right to be doing that. I certainly don't send emails to guys like that, and when I do send one its on a rare occasion. I've been cheated on before and all guys would say that talking to their ex was just friendly but three out of 5 boyfriends were still seeing their ex and still staying busy when I couldn't do something. He lives across the country. We're in a long distance relationship and this is putting a TON of stress on us. He thinks I'm aggressive towards girls other than me and said "It's like if I talk to another girl you're going to kill me." I don't know if its just flashbacks of previous relationships I've been in but I'm getting scared.Am I really being selfish? Or am I just scared from other relationships? Maybe I'm just a bitch but... Its kind of scary to think he might be talking to her more than just in email.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): I think you need to find a guy that is committed and is not one of those guys who keeps a fucking tally on a piece of paper under his bed for every girl hes slept with. Their are guys who wouldnt never do that and im one of them. Thats why my parents got divorced cause my dad ended up doing that and as you might know, its like a bomb that is felt by everyone in your family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): Hi Hun,
I dont have these face bk things as ive heard so much stuff like this, The amount of people ive read that have found on there b/fs or g/fs facebook suggestive stuff to others is so many. Im not saying its a bad thing to have its just ive heard so many storys like yours,
And its just another thing in life that if you can check out of curiosity the contents of, It all gets out of control.
If my guy was talking to a girl and I saw he called her sexy no I would not be happy as this is not my fellas way unless he fancied the so called sexy....So no ones sexy but me and angelina j
Hunny you sound so hurt from your past relationships that Im not supprised you are like this and although some would say dont tell your guy why you may feel or act the way you do, My man said tell me everything so I no why you may be acting in a certain way as ive had alot of bad experiences with men.
He knows and understands and if I hadnt told him I swear he would think me nuts sometimes as you feel your going nuts as the past can have such an affect on your future... I wouldnt be to happy with the hi sexy thing, But if you want to keep this relationship and can get past this facebook thing without being curious great but I would be talking to him love, comunication is the only way, You need to feel that the love and trust is there thats the foundation of a solid relationship, I never even think of looking say in my guys texts as I no and trust him so very much I have no need, please dont take this the wrong way ive done it before with an ex and my gut instincts were right on that occation so that ended there and then am I a bitch I dont think so just very carefull with good reason, your not selfish or a bitch its life thats made you protect yourself you have to work on your self confidence when youve been through hurt like you have and your young enough to work on it and grow I hope you sort this out hunny TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXX
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