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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:About 4/5 weeks my mum met, and subsequently got into a relationship with, this guy. I just get a really weird vibe from him, as if something isn't right and he isn't who he makes out to be. He's spoken openly about his past; apparently he was an alcohol/drug fuelled biker who caused trouble wherever he went. Right now, he doesn't even have a license because he caused a crash when he got pissed off with someone else's driving. Honestly, he acts like he's proud of his actions. I've spoken about this all to her before and she's even agreed that she's unsure about him and doesn't know whether she likes him or not. Yet she continues to drive him around, spend all weekend with him, and praise him constantly. I just don't get it. I don't even understand why you would let a man you're unsure of into the home you share with your teenage daughter. I really do not know what to do. Every plan that's made somehow includes him now and it's really irritating because she knows I'm not especially fond of him. She's never really been in a relationship throughout my life, she had an on-off affair with my dad (he's married) but that's been about it. I have thought that maybe it's just because I'm not used to the idea but there's definitely something weird and suspicious about him and his actions.
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reader, PerhapsNot  +, writes (8 May 2012):
 You can pay to do a background check on him. It's not very expensive either. Or you can even look up county court cases which are public. Maybe if your mother sees some concrete proof of some criminal background information, it will spur her to action. Otherwise she may be lonely and desperate for male attention.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2012): Hate to mention this...but he is obviously providing your mother with something she doesn't want to give up and probably can't get elsewhere.
whether that is attention, affection, a bit of a thrill, sexual compatibility, drugs, company or something else entirely...i can't tell you.
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