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writes: I've never had a proper boyfriend, I've been fairly happy with that until now. Mainly because I loved this guy for longest time and that occupied my affection for other people. During this time i've tended just to hook up with people in a completely not serious way. However i've recently started liking this guy friend of mine, i think about him a lot. Like sexually, relationship wise and I like the thought of 'us' a lot but then it's so confusing because sometimes I think about things that make me not want to be with him at all for example he's quite sensitive, he's a bad driver and what about if sex was awkward or bad. I realize it's over the top but these are the reasons I haven't told him how i feel, it's stupid but i can't help myself, i think i have issues. I'm so genuinely confused as to why i do this. Has anyone ever felt this way? i feel like it's just me. I cant explain it to any of my friends, they don't understand. I need some advice, why might i do this? Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, petina1  +, writes (5 January 2011):
 You are just weighing him up as a potential boyfriend, you are getting the measure of him and in your mind making sure it's the right decision before that time arrives. It can be quite daunting when y ou first get into a relationship with someone, but you like him and are imagining what things could be like. You will only find out what he's really like , just like any other couple, once you get with him and start on that journey. Some couples can be completely different when they are alone and then different again in the company of others. Like they have a private side exclusive to you, then the 'showy' side for their mates. You will only find the answer to all of your questions if you make the commitment. You sound a bit nervous and aprehensive thats all. Good Luck
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (5 January 2011):
 I don't think you're the only person to feel this way, i'm sure there are lots of people who have held back their feelings because they're scared of what might be bad. More often than not the person they have feelings for ends up with someone else and you feel as though you missed your chance with them.
So, you have 3 options...
1. Keep these feelings to yourself and spend time wondering "what could have been"
2. Tell this person how you feel, and if things get awkward this could potentially ruin your friendship
3. Tell them how you feel, realise that everything is perfect and you can get on with being happy! You never know unless you give it a go...
So, you need to weigh up the pros and cons of each option, and go from there. Hope i have been of some help at least!
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