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writes:I've been in a long distance relationship with a guy I met in a chat room for a little over 2 months now. He's in the usmc and when we started talking he was in training but right now he's overseas. He's the first guy I've ever had feelings for, and the feelings I do have for him are pretty strong at this point. I told him 2 days ago that I love him, and he says he loves me too and I believe him. But because this is my first relationship I worry that I might be jumping into this too soon and too deep and that i might scare him away or something by...loving him too much lol. I understand his situation and that we can't talk as often as we could before but now that i've grown these feelings for him it gets harder everyday to not tlk to him because i miss him so much. I mean, all I can think about is him for the most part, i'm not used to this. and even though I know that he's busy overseas, he'll text me and we'll tlk but then he'll suddenly disappear and come bk hours later and tell me he was sent on a mission. But when he just disappears without telling me i think he left because of something i said or did and that kinda tears me apart. i have asked him if he could just tell me he has to go so i dont worry, but idk if he understood.I'm not really sure what I'm asking here. My fear is that i'll turn into a crazy clingy chick who can't function without talking to him. It seems to be getting to that point and I'm sorta freaking out and i'm not completely sure if he feels as strongly about me as i do him. Around when we were still getting to know each other he brought up the subject of love a couple times and i got the feeling that he liked me alot more than i liked him. and now i feel that the tables have turned and i'm head over heels for this guy. He tells me that he loves me and is always thinking about me, and i believe him. but i still have worries that, idk, maybe its too good to be true? could this just be my own insecurities?What are your thoughts on this? By the way I'm 19, he's also 19. We both live in the states, 750 miles apart, even farther now that he's overseas but only til july. he plans to come meet me when he's discharged. Did any of this make sense? lol. Not all of my friends arent really approving of our relationship either so i guess I'm just looking for opinions on it. Thanks in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2010): Hi, this is the original poster. Thanks for ur responses.
I agree that I do need to chill. I'm really usually not worrysome about things but with this I find myself being over-analytical and reading too much into things. Like a couple weeks ago i kept over thinking everything and kinda freaked out and broke up with him for what i realize now was a dumb reason. he got really upset with me and i was being selfish with the whole thing and scared so i apologized and we made up.
So since then i've vowed to myself to just go with the flow and let it work out as it will. My mind constantly wants to go to worst case scenario, but i'm working on that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2010): Hey!
First of all I definitely think you're over thinking things.. WAY too much. you've been together little over too months and you already seem ridiculously paranoid and worried?
I think most of it is your own insecurities, it's good to be head over heels and to let them know how you feel however there is a boundary especially earlier on in relationships as you're still getting to know eachother.
If you're really that worried within 2 months I really would question whether you're ready for a relationship or not hun because one of the main things is trust and you shouldnt have to feel like you may or may not have done something wrong.
I think you should jsut tell him how much you worry and just tell him that you need reassuring, but also i think you should calm down :) x
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reader, the_stranger +, writes (4 June 2010):
since this is you first strong relationship, this might all be pointless, advice wont change anything, the hart wants what it wants, but my 2cents is be patient, be kool, all things work as they should, love isnt what it used to be it needs more work now a days, dont be so worrysome, just stay chill
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