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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hey. ok here goes.i have this bf for almost a year and i love him a lot, my parents do not want me to have anything to do with him cause he's from a different country to mine and they do not trust people from his country. They say they are all bad, also they are quite possesive.I have a son and because they dont trust me they dont like it when i take hime out with me, hes only 2. i have to be careful with what i do because i dont want them throwing me on the street leaving me and taking my son. so i live by there rules. i work hard and study part time too so soon i will be able to take a place of my own and care for my son without them mixing in. so i am busy splitting my time with working and being out all day and then spending time with my son. and to top that all off i have my bf too and sometimes he makes me feel really confused that maybe he doesnt love me i dont know if im reading to much into it if its just stress and nerves. please tell me what you think. well he is seperated and has filed for a divorce he has one child, i know his wife ive met her i know her whole family but i dont know his because they r in his country except for a brother.i feel like we never have anytime together and when we go out on weekends he just wants to dance and have fun no-strings attached which is fine with me they r just dancing. but he says that when i come with him i chase the women away cause i make it so obviouse we r dating. i never mean to do that but when we go out he never even looks at me and that makes me sometimes angry he denys it he says its not true. but i see the time we go out as fun and spending more time with each other, but he or so it seems to me doesnt see it that way. and that hurts. sometimes it looks like he cares so much about me and then other times he becomes like a cold fish. and then all my insecurities kick in and doubts form in my mind.sometimes i think he likes me just because im there because im more like a guy then a girl ive had a tough upbringing so ive learnt to control my emotions so i rarely flare up or bitch and when i do he doesnt like it much but i get him to talk to me. and then i see him all cosy with his family and i get all upset cause i dont have any cosy family and i wish i did. he doesnt have to hide me from them im welcome in there house. but mine? hes never even met my parents they refused to see him he cant come to the house. he barely sees my son. and i wonder how much im gaining from all this? is it worth it does he really love me? sometimes i can tell he does but other times? are all men like this? acting like its a crime to show feelings? he hasnt kissed me probably in 3 weeks btw.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2011): You're his fall-back: the woman he goes to when there are no other women available.
Seriously, he takes you out with him while he's looking for another woman to hang out with? This makes it clear he doesn't care about you.
You should break up with this guy and stay away from him.
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