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writes:Ok so about a month ago i met a guy online. After a few emails and interesting IM conversations, we planned to meet up to help me with a homework assignment. We hung out spur of the moment two days before (a Friday night). Things started out ok but i was very quiet. As i'm quite an introvert (and he's an extrovert, though not to the extreme), i had a hard time being comfortable in the artsy low-key club he took me to. I barely talked at all but made a little bit of conversation over dinner afterwords. No good night kiss but he texted right afterwords to make sure i had fun etc. (Good sign). That Sunday was SUPER awkward. I just couldn't get comfortable for anything in the world. After we fooled around a bit, i freaked out in the middle and ruined the rest of the evening. He texted a couple of times over the next 3 weeks but nothing indicating seeing each other again. By the 2nd week, i'd taken the hint and left things. The following week he suggested we hang out but canceled (lack of enough time to plan something out). A week or so later, we made plans to hang out and did. Went perfectly. However we did have sex (i know, bad thing). I'm not being clingy or calling/texting him. It's been 4 days and no word from him. I'm trying to wait it out as i don't want him to disappear on me. I really like this guy, though i made sure to only let him know i like him ONE time and that was a few weeks ago. Is there any way that i can keep him from assuming i'm just an easy lay?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009): um think you have this so wrong...
you are not an easy lay. (well not that i can see). So please rest assured on that - I think you behaved well.
i think on the dating sites there are a lot of men who are players. they will date several women at the same time etc. and just bounce between them. So whilst he is not with you i would guess he is shagging elsewhere. I suspect the best thing on these sites is ask questions lots of them. check the answers - am i the only one you are seeing etc.
If its been 4 days and he hasn't rung \ called \ texted then i am sorry ,but really he is not into you. He is a fool who has missed out on someone wonderful. I think you should go find someone else - someone who is into you. Really into you.
Star.x.
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