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writes: i really like this girl who i thought was impossible to get. she's in my year but we've only spoken a few words face to face as she is very very shy. she is never seen talking to a boy so it's really hard for me however on msn i've talked to her a lot. we talk for hours everyday online so i asked her if she would like to go out somewhere durin the holidays with her mate. she said she'll talk to her mate. i phoned her mate and the girl i like actually wants to go, so i'm takin my friend aswell. what can i do to talk more, is there anything i can achieve out of this little going out? i dont wanna waste this opportunity. i dont think she likes me because i told her about my feelings for her 4 months ago, and she said she dont feel the same but she has been talkin to me much more now online after that.any ideas? tips to make the day memorable? for her to always remember me for something?
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reader, Undisclosed +, writes (24 February 2007):
Tough question. I'm not really sure what you can achieve if you don't think she has feelings for her but you asked specifically how you can make the day memorable.
There a few basic theories on emotions in psychology. One of the main ones is where..."your brain explains the emotions you are feeling". Just went skydiving? Your heart is racing and pumping adrenaline through your veins? Your friend is right next to you? Is your heart racing because of them? Do you like them? (example Google: Capilano Bridge experiment)
The classic answer to come from this is that first dates should be at: The Amusant Park, At a scary movies... anywhere where emotions will be high...
NB: That's a VERY BIAS answer and doesn't take into account how unique everyone is. Some people HATE trills. That may be the case with the object of your attraction. Depends on the girl.
I know my town so I'll rattle off some of the options I have here and maybe it'll give you some ideas: Old fashing movie at the old movie house, japanese teppanyaki grill (chef make an awesome show of cooking the food), glow in the dark mini-putt, dog slegding, billiard, dessert house, ice skating, a walk in national park (especially during the autumn season), double kayaks (expecially during the spring when there are plenty of ducklings), a bike ride along the river, a flight over town (small local airport - very very cheap rate at certain times of the year), haunted goast tours of town, the national art gallery, a play a the small theater, a stand up comic on a 2for1 student night, Disco Bingo, check out on of the local bands playing downtown, berry picking at the farms out of town, toboganning (bring out the kid in her), cross-country skiing, showshoeing (bring hot chocolate), bowling - especially if it's a special night like glow in the dark or Disco night, feeding the duck/swans by the river, white water rafting, IMAX movie, rock climbing at an indoor rock gym, dancing (! The holy grail of all options)... I really wracked my brain for you buddy.
You know what's memorable? You know what's exciting and interesting? You.
You are. That's the event - time with you. Sure you can draw up a plan for the night. Are you ready to laugh and smile when it all goes down the drain and doesn't work out (the event)? Sure you can decide what funnest thing would be. Are you ready for when she shrugs her shoulder and says "Nah that doesn't interest me".
Are you ready for a night where, you both ended up waiting for one of your friends beacuse she took AN HOUR to get downtown, where you ended up taking the wrong bus, got lost and had to wait in a covenience store 20mins for the next bus while clutching the tickets to the show that started half an hour ago wondering if you'll still be able to make it, where she loses her earing, mopes and finally because she's cold and hungry you end up in a diner for an hour or so until she goes finally home?
That's it. With those tickets in your pocket it's natural to think that "the night never started" but it did. Fill it with smiles and laughter at every turn. Make her feel important and understood. You like her, be yourself and this really is the easiest thing. You like to see her smile - be that reason; you like to hear her laugh - make it happen.
I'd love to hear how the "memory" went. Drop me a line if you'd like. Have fun.
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