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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hello guys. im really grateful that you took some of your time in order to help me .my 2 years long distance relationship gf just broke up with me and honestly i dont blame her at all. i was bein so selfish lately. I even tried to make her stop modelling since i just didnt like her doing that even though thats her only ambition. so yea she broke up with me coz she got fed up of everything and jst left me.I cant get over her, im crazy about her. i blame myself for everything. i had her in the palm of my hands but lost her now coz i didnt appreciate what i had and now its too late, im trying to get her back but im only pushin her away. i dont know what to do. i know that she still has some feelings for me coz you cant just hate someone over a night, even though i was bein horrible lately. i dont know what i should do. i want her back, i need her so much. Should I give her time? What if she gets with someone else? I would go crazy. I cant see anyone else even kissing or touching her. please tell me how can I get her back? Any tips any advice? thank you guys in advance.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (19 October 2010):
 Female perspective here..LDR's can work but both parties have to be cut out for it. Not everyone can be in one. She broke it off, why? What were her reasons? If they were anything along the lines of "We're so far apart, I can't handle the distance, or I don't have time for this" then there'e no getting her back. She's not a good candidate for it.
In your first paragraph you sound a little controlling...it's possible this break up is partly your fault. I would give it a little time, and call her telling her everything you wrote to us, that you will work on your controlling nature. If you hopped a plane, with flowers in your hand, and surprised her with a letter saying how sorry you are..I would take you back. Bottom line, all you can do is try but give it a little time then make your move. If you get nothing in return or still her pushing you away. Take it as it's definitely over, no means no. On the plus side, it's easier to get over a broken up LDR because you don't have to run into them at the book store, or out in about. Out of sight, out of mind.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (19 October 2010):
 Let her go. A long distance relationship is hard, and she probably couldn't take it anymore. Give yourself time to get over her and move on to someone close who you can actually be with.
If she doesn't want to be with you, then there is nothing you can do. You can't be jealous because that will just drive her further away.
Let her go and move on.
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