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writes:ill be honest!!!im a virgin..i havent had sex before..im turning 19 this year...say decide that i wana do it now...how do i start??what position do i start with??what if im not good at it....please help i need all the advice i can get...i dont want a short brief answer so please take your time and think things through before you give me advice!!thanks in advance Reply to this Question
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reader, a husband  +, writes (10 April 2008):
You've made it this long, and I'm sure it seems almost impossible to keep waiting. But, speaking from personal experience, waiting till you're married makes sex incredible. Knowing that she waiting for me makes it that much amazing, and it makes me love her more.
Think about it.
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reader, DevinPierco +, writes (8 April 2008):
Dude i'm a virgin to. the way i see it is if i every get a girlfriend and we decide to have to have sex it won'y matter if its bad or good becuase it should mainly be fun and fullfilling. idk if this helps brotha but peace
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): Okay, remember not to rush into losing your virginity, it's an important thing and you need to take it slow. Don't let anyone pressure you into anything!
Remember, lots of foreplay to get you both itching for each other. Girls need to be nice and wet down there, so you might want to start with some oral. If you can make her orgasm through giving her oral (cunnilingus) then great. You might want to google some tips for giving oral on the internet. Touch each other and generally enjoy getting each other aroused.
It's often easiest if you start in missionary position - with the women on her back with her legs spread wide and you on top. This feels most natural to people when they're first starting out and aren't quite so adventurous yet. If she's reacting well (moaning, looking like she's enjoying it etc etc) then slowly get faster. Don't give yourself a heart attack though honey!
If you want to, google some different sex positions like doggy style - this is quite easy but can give you an awful lot of pleasure!
You said 'what if im not good at it'... Everything takes practise honey. But she'll pretty much be pleased already if you can make her orgasm to start with through oral. So I'd definitely get some tips on that. There's an aunt on here called 'DoubleM' and if you want, message him on cunnilingus because I've seen him give very helpful advice on this topic. I'm sure he be pleased to help. Just keep relaxed. When I lost my virginity, neither of us even worried being good or bad at it. When I look back, it seems strange, but we were so in love that we just looked into each others eyes, and that was all we needed to enjoy it. So wait for someone you really love - I swear to you, it makes all the difference. It really does.
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reader, Pasha  +, writes (7 April 2008):
Being a virgin is not sometihing you want to give into easily. Just because you are 19 doesnt mean that you have to rush into getting rid of your virginity! Trust me, you will know when the right time is and how to start. And as far as being good at it, when you first make love to someone it all comes with practice. Besides everyone is different. You will come in contact with someone very special and the feelings you have will take you where you want to be. Being with someone for the first time is VERY special and should not just be given to anyone. Please don't give into the first one you see. Take your time and make it special, romantic and rememberable. You don't want to look back after the fact and say "I wish i didn't do that!" Even when you are with someone it takes a great deal of time to get to know that person. remember, you are giving yourself to that person. Make it someone special. Don't give in because you think you should just because you are 19! You have a very special gift to give someone, not just anyone. hope this helps!
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