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writes:Ok so im 19 years old and just recently got out of a horrible relationship. I guess it was really good in some ways, but in other ways it was horrible. Back in November i reconnected with a girl i met only once before. We hit it off right away when i first met her but were young and she lives about an hour and 10 minutes from me. In november i decided i was going to drive and go see her, and again we hit it off and really liked eachother. I am 19 and she is 17, and even though i was attending college, making me about 2.5 hours from her, we decided to give a long distance relationship a try. At first it was really great, we got along so well and liked eachother more than anyone either of us has ever been with in the past. Once second semester started, the problems began. I often got extremely jealous, about once or twice every day, and found myself thinking about her with someone else. This realllyyyyyyyy made my life hell, because i just couldnt get it out of my head, and i know deep in my heart she would never have done anything, but i just couldnt shake the though. Now i realize this is my own issue to fix, but i dont think its entirely all my fault for getting jealous. When u live so far from someone and see them only once a week, obviously its a bit harder to trust a person. Anyways, by march we were contantly fighting alll the time about her talking to other guys (she says as friends, and still said the same even after we were done) and me always getting jealous made me start doing bad things. I started telling her i wanted to be done but then quickly changed my mind and hurt her alot making it thus hard for her to trust me. When i found that i basically ran her trust for me down to its core, i knew it was time to get rid of the relationship. My Biggest problem out of everything though had to do with our sex life. There wasnt one. Right at the start she told me "im not like other girls, and i wont have sex for a while" and i liked her so much i didnt care at all. Later on i figured out she wasnt planning on having sex until yeard later when she graduated, which i was still fine with. But after 6 whole months of being together, she did NOTHING but kiss me. I asked why in a polite manner, and she said "i hate being touched, and im not into that stuff"....i even asked her ex boyfriends and she did nothing with them either. Im sorry, but i think thats a sign of a huge problem for her. I really liked her a lot, more than anyone, but come on guys have needs ya know, and getting nothing for 6 months is so messed up. I knew it was time to end, and i did, but i find myself missing her so much all day long. She was amazingly nice, and i cant get the thought of her from me head =[. we stopped all contact, and its been a month...but it wont fade as fast as i want it to =[...any thoughts on this situation would be helpful, thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2010): if you really liked her why didnt you respect her decision just to want to kiss you?
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