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30-35,
*aria.niz
writes:Next month I'm going to a concert with a pair of friend of mine, but I've just found out there will be my ex too with us. I've been in a relationship with an incredible guy for the past six months, but I can't say I've completely forgotten my ex. The feelings I felt for my ex were really strong, I had to work hard for being happy again. So, I don't know how to act when I will meet my ex again.Any suggestion?Thanks a lot
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (30 May 2014):
 Be the best person you can be. Be happy, be yourself, be pleasant and civil with him friendly even.. but no talking about when you were a couple...
"good to see you" is fine
"you're looking well" is fine
"i miss you" is NOT fine
Ciar as usual gives GREAT advice... upbeat, cheery, friendly.. NOT intimate emotionally.
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reader, llifton +, writes (29 May 2014):
 If you really believe it to be a potential problem, just sell your tickets and don't go. It's not worth reopening any wounds and effecting your current relationship.
If you don't believe it's going to create that big of an issue, but just be a little uncomfortable/sad for you, simply go but remind yourself over and over that you have a wonderful new boyfriend and that the feelings you are feeling towards you ex are normal but that they don't mean anything. The feelings of sadness just mean that you had a past with this person, but you two weren't meant to be. It doesn't mean you still love him. You would still be together if he was the one.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2014): Good advice from Ciar. My version of it - treat them like you would a shop assistant or a hair stylist or the stranger you meet on the bus. Be polite and civil. You can even smile and make a bit of small talk - but don't expect anything more. And nothing more is required
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (29 May 2014):
 Picture someone you once knew, liked well enough but didn't have strong feelings for one way or another. Look at how you treat them. Do the same with your ex.
Do NOT reminisce with him. Keep it cordial and upbeat.
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