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writes:what can i do to gain confidence with girls? as summer goes on i get closer and closer to going to college. one reason im not too thrilled about this is because i have no confidence when it comes to talking to girls. im very shy around everybody, even some of my friends, but especially around girls. my mouth seems to get dry and i end up making myself seem weird when i talk to girls because i can't keep a conversation going. i've only had 3 past girlfriends and all 3 were just horrible (i think that's what made me lose my confidence). i try so hard but i just don't know what to say or do around girls and when i do say something, about 75% of the time it's the wrong thing to say. all i want is a girlfriend to spend time with and take out places, but with the way it's looking, i don't know when the next time that will be...Any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone, each of yalls answers were helpful and i'm going to go out there and start talking.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (15 July 2010):
I was really rubbish with girls as well. So shy, it was actually crippling. I asked ten girls out while I was at school, and got turned down every time. I just didn't know what to say to them really. So to build up my confidence, I started going to cafe's and shops that had women serving so I could just say hello and ask how their day was, and I even went to a hair salon that served men and women, but was run by women so I could just talk to them (not in a stalker way, I might add). It worked, really well. Instead of worrying about talking to women to ask them out, try doing what I did. Get your hair cut at a place that is run by women so you can just talk to them. They won't be so threatening as women you fancy. If you get a coffee at Starbucks or something, and a woman serves you, just ask her how business is because of the recession. When you go to a clothes shop, if there's a woman there serving, ask her whether a particular shirt suits you or something. Anything where you can just speak to women who aren't so threatening as the ones you really fancy. Start there, and your confidence will grow.
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reader, luckyirishlass  +, writes (15 July 2010):
Well i say firstly u sound like such a nice caring guy! u want a girl to spend time with and take her out, thats adorable :) What are your hobbies? are u into music? games? art? wat course u doin in college? personnaly i wet through highschool dating one guy...and it was horrible! i was always way too shy and nervous around guys, but wen i started college i was in a class full of people with the same interests and hobbies as me. so automatically i clicked with these guys, and became friends with them (which helped me come my shyness) and soon enough i started dating!!
so i say, be urself,look for girls with common interests, perhaps friendship first and it more than likely will develop into somthig more, and the girl will see how awsum u reali are! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2010): You've got to develop self-confidence and be pleased with who you intrinsically are.You also have to feel a connection with a girlfriend so not any girl will do. You have to meet a lot of them until you find one that is on your level and with whom communication will be easy and not some ordeal. This may take time. Work at it and be patient WITH YOURSELF.
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