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writes:I am a guy in my 50's and I'm most compatible emotionally, physically, and sexually with girls in their 20's. Are there any legal or other risks in approaching and having sex/relationship/love with women that are at least 18 years old(USA venue)? I know it's considered "robbing the cradle", but as long as she's of legal age and I'm respectful and responsible, are there any problems I should be aware of? Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, Artistry +, writes (6 May 2008):
 Hi, thanks for responding to our stated advice. You say you are not "fun". You are fun, but you have to involve yourself
with those women, who share the things that you like to do, then it will fun, for both of you. Give yourself a short break, from those ladies, who need you to invest in them for monetary or emotional growth issues. As I said before, try to find people on your level, which could be a new experience, see if it satisfies you, if it doesn't, then you can return to your prior choices, even if they leave you, enjoy it while it lasts. One of them may surprise you and stay. Take care and good luck to you always.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy thanks to Artistry and anon - I can assure you all that in love, I always do my best to give all I can, and I have always truly loved anyone that I would share a bed with.
Thanks for the support - I will do my best to get yet another woman in my life. They always leave - I am told it's because I help them grow and they don't need me any more. And, of course, I am not "fun", though I can do most anything practical. Perhaps I will be able to grow with someone someday, though I grow slowly. I'm sorry that anon ran into a guy with more problems than she had. At this stage of life, I am successful at everything except relationship, yet without that, life is meaningless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): Hi, just reading what you wrote I feel like I would like to share my story with you, hoping you can get some help from it. I used to be in love with a man 27 years older than me. He is an alcoholic and poor and a divorced man with many kids. Meanwhile I was a young girl for whom he was the first man she ever became so interrested. Despite all of this I loved him and we had a really good time as we had so much in common.But our relationship came to an end even since we were parted because of his job and it was the long distance relationship did not work out.I did not know why the love would fade just because of the distance as for me I still loved him whereever he was.
This is my story. My suggestions are that I hope would not start a relationship with a much younger woman unless you are serious with her. I believe the age gap is np problem if two people are turlly in love and cherish eaxh other a lot. If two people have many things in common and are comfortable with each other they still can lead a happy life even one is much much older than the other.But love is really important. If the relationship is not based on love, then when the day arrives and it has to be ended, I guess the younger one(young woman) is going to be hurt so much.
Wish you good luck and happy life
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reader, Artistry +, writes (6 May 2008):
Hi, As long as they are of a legal age, I can't think of anything wrong. Socially, you will looked at, as robbing the cradle, but is that a crime? People would probably be a bit jealous of you, wishing it were them. The other thing I would be concerned about, if at all, would be the maturity level, most women in the age range, you mentioned are still growing, and you don't know what, they will turn out to be once, they are mature. I kind of think, I would find someone, who knows who they are, who is able to have stimulating conversation, and be on some sort, of same level status, unless of course, you want to help the younger women to develop, as some older men do, which is find. It is up to you, you need to be satisfied with the situation, as you are the one participating. If both subjects, are willing and of legal age, I say go for it, but be aware, you just may get bored, with a fledging young woman and then again, maybe, just maybe, you won't. Take care, be happy, try to make the other people in your life happy. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks happytochat, lots to think about, but it would seem there are no legal risks. Long term is best, but sometimes all we can attract is short term these days. I don't particularly mind having more children if that would make her happy, and I never went clubbing until my mid 40's anyway. I just don't like clubbing alone. I suppose I am a bit of a late bloomer. If she is only with me for my money and I never am able to figure that out, it would seem I got my money's worth! And I have enough money to go around anyway - for my kids, her kids, and any women I have had the privilege of being with. The biggest risk you mentioned is the "moral risk" of her not being able to deal with the peer pressure of being with an older guy. Life is short and I would rather die skydiving than decaying in a nursing home.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (6 May 2008):
Are you looking for somoene to be with in a long term relationship or something casual? If you are looking for someone to be with in a seriuos commited and long term relationship, being with a younger girl has many possible problems that will arise.
She may want to have kids sometime later in life and you probably dont considering your age. What about marriage? You both are at different points in your life where one may want marriage and the other may not.
Also think about what typical hobbies and interests a 18 year old has- clubbing, drinking, partying etc...surely you are not into that lifestyle at your age?
Another possible problem would be the moral dilemma. Many people look down upon it and some people (especially when you are young) want to please everyone else and if they dont feel accepted they will change to fit in. So unless you find yourself a very storng individual young girl, this will be an issue.
What about the risk of her only being with you for money or possible assets she may gain when you pass away??
Some things to think about.
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