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writes:hellooo just need some advice on the sexual front...ive recently got together with this guy and we are slowly moving onto more sexual activities... i havent slept with anyone and dont plan to do either (well before im married anyway)so we are doing other things and its really quite good when im receiving it but to be honest i dont know what i can do to make him cum... i mean i give him a hand and blow job but thats it really... is there anything else we could do without going all the way???also he takes ageeess to cum and i get kindaa get bored lol and dont know how i could make him cum quicker???? any tips
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reader, Arthur Fonzerilli  +, writes (27 July 2008):
A. He takes ages to cum? You want him to cum quicker? I hear a lot of couples have the reverse problem. That their boyfriend cums too quick and it just lasts 5 minutes or last and its over. Most people don't talk like this but he could be having ogagasim without cumming you know it's possible. Hey that's all that there is is just you want him to cum? Maybe you should just kiss him and cuddle him sometimes, be spontaneous and also just enjoy his body. If just the sex act is all you want sometimes it can be boring.
You can get that on a website. Tease him and turn around and play hard to get for a while and see what happens. Eat a banana in front of him and don't have any contact with him at all and then when you do it will be well worth it.
If sex is boring do without it for a day. Hey Also by the way ... You and him will end up doing it doggy style anyway you know that's where your're heading because that's what he wants he's a man it's all sex really. If you keep doing what you're doing you know. If you don't want to have sex before marriage you should stop doing all of it altogether. Of coarse this is just my opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): Fair enough Q, OK he care's enough to give you pleasure, I'll give him that. Have you tried a 69, oral sex together. You don't come, untill he has come, that should focus your attention on his pleasure.
A slow hand is good, stroking and kissing as lightly as you can, it will make a change, and as they say a change is as good as a rest. Tantalise, temptation and teasing, should make him arroused and out of control. A finger introduced into his backside, some men love it and go wild, some men hate it and will fight you off. His got a big body, men love women to show attention to their bodies. Kiss his nipples, his ears, and anywhere else you can reach. Make sure that you turn up the temperature and make him totally aroused and out of his mind before you even get started on a blow job.
That's what I do, it's easier than working a dick. If you train them right, a kiss, a touch should make them explode straight away. Play with him and watch carefully to see what turns him on and makes him explode. Then don't do it again for a long time, so when you need him to come fast, you just do what you know turns him on. Sorry there are so many things you can do, search the net like the other poster suggested and try to pick up some sexual tricks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): In my experience, the less I try, the easier they come. Like when I was younger and inexperienced, I would go to great lengths to try to please a guy. Reading up on information on how to stroke him and tease him and blah blah. I would even make noises, like porn stars do, thinking that would really get them off. I guess I was just trying to act like I knew what I was doing. And they would take a long time to come. I think I was thinking too much about it...But as I got older, I became more confident and the less I tried to please a guy, I wasn't thinking about it so much, and I just went with the flow and enjoyed the moment and pleased myself. No noises ( I naturally don't even make noises! It was retarded), no special ways to stroke him, just pure, spontaneous enjoyment. And ironically, they get off way faster when I am just myself and don't try so hard. Within minutes usually. My advice to you is forget what he thinks or wants and just straddle him and genuinely please yourself. Its a win-win situation cause you will actually enjoy it and he will absolutely love it way more than if you actually put conscious effort into it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): That's about it honey. If your already getting bored, after you start having intercourse you'll probably go off sex. You say you've only met this guy recently, but you've already done all of this. That dosen't seem slow to me. Pick up a copy of the Karma Sutra, it's available online for free. There are 100 ways to kiss, and tons of different techiniques that include stroking in different ways. Vary the way you do things, not the things you do. You can also introduce objects, like feathers that tickle and things you can lick off. Foreplay is not a chore, it's supposed to be part of the fun. Your rushing things, slow down, and play with him, instead of concentrating on how fast you can make him cum.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): hey sooo smart of you to wait to go all the way. That's highly respectable :)
Have you tried dry-humping maybe? Also, do you know just how many different ways/positions you can give a guy a handjob/blowjob. It could take quite awhile to try them all! try this site and best of luck ;)
www.sexinfo101.com
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