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writes:So here's my story, a guy i know since childhood but havent seen since years starts to hit on me and gets in touch for several weeks before things turned romantic. Since we live in different countries we were basicly texting all the time. At some point he was focusing all his convos around sexual things which overcrossed the respectful limits and made me feel bad. I confonted him and we were fine again. But again few weeks later he restarted. I was upset and we fell out. He literally changed with me. And got distant and cold. I started missing him and thought of good moments and that was in february. I texted him he ignored for a month then removed me from facebook. Ever since he got in touch sometimes and ignored most of the times. I gave up on him in july but thats when he restarted texting and got soft with me asking me when am i coming to visit like everyday. When i finally surrendered and went to his country where my family lives too i texted him asking him to meet. He ignored and i neverheard from him agajn. I know he travelled a week after i artived there. But he came back few weeks ago. Its been 2 months. No news from him . What do u think is happening and why was did he Ask to see me if he acted this way? Im so stuck and confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know for sure that he has no wife or serious gf as his mom is friends with mine. But the thing is, he wants to get married desperately and have kids. Everybody knows that. He's just so weird.
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (11 October 2013):
 If he really wanted to meet you he would have made the effort. I think he is hiding something from you. Maybe he does not want you to see what he looks like now, unless you've seen him on webcam. Maybe he's already in a committed relationship. It sounds like he's leading you on and is only interested in a sexual liaison. Why not have your family inquire about him to satisfy your curiosity?
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (11 October 2013):
 Childhood friends are always targeted as sex text buddies since people know each other and feel comfortable. I would say all he intended was texting and he found you as a masturbatory tool. To hide this intention he got so "friendly" that he asked you to visit him. I would also say that the "romance" is to warm you up to the sexual things. He was doing everything he could to sound the least like a creep but at the same time avoiding reality. That explains the back and forth communication that only serves him whenever he feels lonely.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (11 October 2013):
 I would write him off as a guy who is a sexual creep. He's not romantic, he's focused on sex. You saw him still as the guy you knew from childhood but he's now the pervert who lives in another country. I'd be thankful it didn't get further than that and that you didn't have to see him.
Oh, and I expect he's married or committed to some poor woman who has no idea he's a sexual creep.
I would say that there's no need to be confused. He's a guy who doesn't honor commitments and is a coward as well. Yuck. Be thankful you are rid of him.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (10 October 2013):
 Long distance relationships rarely flower so that's the culprit
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