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writes:Hey! my boyfriend and I have been together for a few months now, but I've known him forever since we've been friends since high school. Everything is great, we get along great and we both work to make things work. We're both very much in love. The sex is also truly amazing- but the other day while we were having sex he suddenly lost his erection while he was inside of me. Let alone the embarassment, but this is the second time it happens and I don't know whether it is my fault or not- I've gained a few pounds over the holidays... could it be he doesn't find me attractive anymore- although he says he does? Has this ever happend to any of you guys? Do you know why this is? Thanks for your help!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 January 2012):
 Trust me sweetie this is not about a few pounds you have gained. In fact, it’s not about YOU at all.
It could be stress, work, he was tired, he had too much to drink, not enough sleep, a million things…
One thing I have learned over the years and many many men is that it’s NOT personal….
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (5 January 2012):
 That used to happen to me when - during coitus - I might have a stray thought about my Mother-in-law. To avoid that, I posted pictures of hot babes on my headboard. It took a little explanation to the lucky girl ho was putting out for me but, once she had enjoyed the delightful s*x that resulted, she INSISTED that I post not only those scrumptious pictures on the headboard, but also, pictures of hunky firemen on my ceiling over the bed - for her ..... You can ONLY IMAGINE the resulting frenzies!!!!!Try it.... Good luck....
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (5 January 2012):
 he could be tired , fatigue , sex several times in a day, stress, mind on problems , worry . i doubt it,s weight you gained during the holidays. the thing is he is not a machine that will keep on running, he may need rest of mind and body. it has happened to me too my mind was into it but my body would not corporate , the next time i was ready to attack.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2012): It's either stress or anxiety. There is something that's bothering him; it could be work, financial, you, etc. As a man who never has any issues with staying erect either, there have been situations where I all of a sudden lost it too right in the middle of intercourse. It was because I was anxious about something.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (5 January 2012):
 There are so many reasons why this could happen to him.
He maybe under a lot of stress at work or in other areas of his life, this is known to cause erection issues.
He may be slightly unwell or run down this can also be a factor.
It could also be something he cant control as many men do experience problems over the course of their sex lives with no real explaination.
If he says its not you then you need to believe him and just see how things go, if the issue continues talk to him andc if he really dont know why then maybe suggest going to the doctors as it is a normal issue many men experience and can be dealt with easily.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (5 January 2012):
 Lots of variables possibly... is he conscious about his appearance? any recent spike in his stress? any recent diagnosed medical condition? is he overweight? ... if hes reassured you its not because of the way you look, thats prob not the cause.
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