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writes:I've been with my GF for few weeks now, she's a really sensitive person and she told me that her mood changes suddenly. I noticed this when we had a little tiffle the other night, one minute we was joking around and the next she just switched, we sorted the little argument out and she doesnt want to be sensitive anymore or wants her mood to not change just like that.Any ideas of how to deal with sensitive people? I like her lots and aint going to finish with her over that. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): I am also a sensitive person. The best way to deal with your girlfriend is to give her a hug even though she is mad at you. This will definitely help her get back on track. It has nothing to do with needing meds, just a lot of people are sensitive. I still remember I couldn't be scolded by my dad without being extremely upset. We are people that have high standards and don't like to be criticized for anything. However, we are difficult to live with. Like I said, just give her a hug and that will bring her right out of it.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (17 July 2008):
 I'm not really sure if this advice will apply to your situation, but it's worth a try. My husband and I have agreed on a code word to say when we need to stop whatever train of thought the other partner is currently having.
For example, when he's driving, I often will start to provide what I think are helpful comments regarding lane management, use of signals, both hands on the wheel, watch out for that bus, don't forget to look in the blind spot, yadda yadda yadda. It drives him crazy.
Occasionally, he will find the dark spot in an otherwise bright situation, he does have a tendency to worry about things that are NOT going wrong, just be a little too pessimistic about something. And this drives me crazy.
So we devised a code phrase, 'stop tape!' is what we say to the other when the overly helpful/pessimistic comments go on for too long.
In your situation, your girlfriend has told you that she has big mood swings. So perhaps this 'stop tape!' concept could be used when you decide that this has happened. It's not meant to be used in a mean way, it's just a way to get the partner to stop and think about what he or she is saying or doing.
Does that make sense?
I also agree with Bendychick that it might not be a bad idea for her to talk with her doctor about her mood swings, there may be a medical explanation if they are really extreme. Or she may indeed benefit from some counseling.
Good luck!
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reader, BendychickP  +, writes (17 July 2008):
 Well, learn to deal. You shouldn't really go out with someone you have to tiptoe around. She may be having mood swings, maybe her hormones are out of whack. She should see a counsillor or doctor about keeping her emotions under control. See what makes her mood change suddenly, avoid doing this, or when she does change moods, try to be understanding and don't get too caught up in the arguement. Good luck with your girlfriend.
Bendy xx
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