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reader, mizseptember07  +, writes (6 November 2010):
Ok i have a boyfriend that ive been with since june 4, 2009 and all its been is drama,and me thinking hes cheating. He never lets me touch his cell or ipod touch, he wont add me as a friend on his facebook cuz he says he thinks ill start stuff on his page with other girls, he has this one girl who he always calls,texts,emails and any other possible way of contacting her he does it. ive caught her coming out of his dorm room just like a month ago at his job to pick him up and he denys doin anything with her but yet she insists theres a relationship between them. What DO YOU GUYS THINK ???R THOSE SIGNS OF CHEATING??
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008): I found out by setting up a sigles site, and sent him a flirt. BOY did he jump on woman fast..I dumped him and NEVER told him WHY...he is addicted to the inter net dating site...poor sap
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008): I just had a boyfriend only recently, and he showed so much affection for me. But soon he started talking about other girls and helping them so much and then finally, he told me to avoid him at all times. I told him I'd avoid him, so now I don't know what he's up to anymore, while still telling me he wouldn't love them instead. He's always talking about how much he talks to girls, and never mentioned once that he liked me ever since the day we got together. I am going to dump him for good. And if anyone has the same situtation as I do, just dump your boyfriend. It isn't worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2008): I am going through this exact same thing at the moment but I know he has joined dating sites even though he denies he has met with anyone. Also I've read texts in his mobile phone where messages from his so called female friends and he has suddenly had to start going away with work more. I offer the chance to end it and he refuses. I have the signs I've just not accepted it cause I can't, I'm in the process of just making sure by a mobile phone I can leave it has and log into, so I can hear his conversations, once I actually heard it, I think I'll accept it but if you have signs like this in your heart you'll know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2008): You will never know unless you catch him in the act!!But instead of worrying, learn to live with it because all men will cheat if they get the chance. There is no point worrying your head over it, life is too short! Everything thats in the dark will come to the light. And when you find out, it will be his loss, because he will never find any1 like you and he will regret it forever. Trust me i've been there!! What hurts you only makes you a stronger person, whereas it makes them weak!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2007): IT'S PROVEN THAT I HAVE THE MASTER PLAN. FIRST WHAT YOU'LL NEED TO DO IS BUY A VOICE RECORDER, THEN STICK IT(TAPE IT) SOME WHERE LIKE UNDER NEATH HIS DRIVER SEAT,OR IN THE HOUSE.BY THE END OF THE WEEK IM POSITIVE YOU WILL HAVE PLENTY OF EVIDENCE TO BUST HIM.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): My Boyfriend just recently cheated on me. i found out today actually. but i had seen it coming, because of the signs i saw:
1) He talked about how much he wanted to hang out with these two other girls, right in front of me.
2) He left in the middle of my volleyball game to go hang out with the two same girls. (to go out and stand in the rain)
3) he was being a jerk, and kept bringing up cheating. saying that everyone said he was cheating when he wasn't and he got very mad.
4) i told him i didn't accept cheaters or date them and he told me i didn't have to wory about it, but laughed afterward.
5) this is probably the TOP...he had cheated on me once before.
girls all i have to say is from my experience...once a cheater...always a cheater. i learned the hard way. don't make the same mistakes i did. don't let him say the nice sweet words, because it'll work and you will be putty in his hands. don't fall for it, be strong.
ps. when i found out i slapped him across the face. he so had a red hand print on his face now.
SIGNED:
Shelbi
Peace&Love
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2007): go to this website they may be able to help you, they helped me to find the answer i was looking forwww.intuitionadvice.co.ukhope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2007): i dont think there is anyway of finding out unless u follow him 2 places but dont worry ur not the only one i feel the same way
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2007): I have a boy friend who talks about other girls and he also go to a diffrent school? I think he is playing me or he is using me and i dont no what to do any ideas for me. Because i was at his house the last two days and i mean he only kissed me 2 times. He always say he is going to call me and never dose. o ya he never says he loves me back or anything so plez help me out
from: a sad girl
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2007): i always feel my boyfriend is cheating on me because sometimes he talks about other girls in front of me and he goes to a different school now so i dont know what he does behind my back and when i go somewhere and he says he wil be there he never is
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2006): just follow him around...go to his work with out him knowning and just walk around make it look like u diden't or u forgot that he was working and just see how he carrys on with other girls...if hes clingy or too talkitive with girls there s a high chance he is
lol yes iam human.. what was with the "apply humen to show u r humen... duh im answerring no?:S... some sites i swear:P GL with ur man im going thoough the same thing lol... but im doing what i no i got to do hoope that gave a one way to deal and see if he is cheating.. it workds
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (30 September 2006):
 A sim card is the data chip inside a mobile phone, this is what the phone number is attatched to.
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reader, Ivanna22 +, writes (29 September 2006):
Ivanna22 is verified as being by the original poster of the question You're right Wendyg!!!! And David Lewis, what's a sim card??
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (29 September 2006):
You can get a sim card on ebay for £1. Mobile networks do promotions too where they send you free sim cards.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (29 September 2006):
 Sorry must have mis understood, I thought he was already cheating on you and you were trying to catch him out ? Not setting him up as though to cheat?
Dangerous I would say, most men out of curiosity would want to know who it is thats suddenly texting them and may keep it going just to see who indeed is playing a prank on them. Not that often that a guy would get a text out of the blue of that nature.
Bit like a honey trap doing this, and is none to savory. Thing is if you have these doubts before doing all the games, then you clearly dont trust him anyway and probably shouldnt be with him. Just say he doesnt go for it this time, what then, will you continue to play the games until one day he does ? You could be setting yourself up for a relationship based on you trying to trick him. If hes not cheating right now, what makes you actually think that he will ? Trust is huge in a relationship and its not there in your relationship hun.
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reader, Ivanna22 +, writes (29 September 2006):
Ivanna22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's a good idea helpful girl!!! thanks! But I think i'm just gonna borrow a friend's cell since i'm so broke.
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reader, Toria +, writes (29 September 2006):
 The truth does come out in the end and if he isn't doing anything then testing him and trying to catch him out maybe what causes you to lose him over your lack of trust in him.
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reader, Ivanna22 +, writes (28 September 2006):
Ivanna22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah last yime I wanted to get him to admit something I just kept saying I knew he was lying until he actually admited it, but Idk bout saying I have proof, he'll ask me about them and I don't have any.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (28 September 2006):
 Those are the classic signs. The shower especially, he doesn't want give you a chance to smell him (and her) before he can wash the smell off.
Perhaps try just straight out saying that you know he is being unfaithful. Stick to your guns and see if he cracks. If you can convince him that you do have evidence that you are sure of, then he might just come clean.
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reader, Ivanna22 +, writes (28 September 2006):
Ivanna22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh my god! Wendyg just mention A LOT of signs he's giving. He's out longer then usual, his phone is ALWAYS on silent when he's around me, and takes more showers. If i'm at his house waiting for him to get back from college or his friend's house, when he gets back home he'll RUN to the bathroom, he'd barely say hello and just run to the bathroom to take a shower which is weird because he always takes a shower right before he goes to college, and what does he need to take another shower for??? It's not even hot out!!! He doesn't live at college this year but always goes there til' 1:30 in the morning. He says he was working at the library on a project til' this late, but everytime I call him he doesn't pick up, and he always has an excuse, like I didn't know it was ringing, or I left it in the car. I always know what excuse he's gonna give me for not answering his phone, he's just soo predictable. I always think: Oh he's probabbly gonna give me some stupid excuse like I didn't know it was ringing, and then he actulally does. What I don't understand is that he says he has his phone on vibrate when he's not with me, and he has it on silent when he is with me because he doesn't care about anyone else when he's with me. Then how can he not know i'm calling if he always has his phone on vibrate when he's not with me???
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2006): I had my ex has cheating on me but had no proof so I bought a mobile fone the exact same as his, picked up his "accidently" goin out one day and discovered all the texts & calls to my so called "BEST FRIEND" other than that get him really really drunk and certain tibits of info be let slip... Good luck is all I say and I hope you get the right result from this
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (28 September 2006):
Look at his eyes when you ask him. They show you everything you need to know. See if he can maintain eye contact, listen to his voice, watch his body language.
I can pretty much read a persons thoughts by analysing body language and looking into their eyes. My fiancee hates it because she can't hide anything from me.
A private detective is a good option, although can be expensive. Just be prepared for the findings. I got photos of my fiancee having sex with another guy twice her age.
Fear is one thing, confirmation is another. Be careful what you ask for, you just might get it!
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reader, Toria +, writes (28 September 2006):
I have always found that a reaction to something you say is more honest than an answer to a question you could ask.
I would act on your suspicions, if you feel he is follow your gut instint and challenge him about it all the time watching his reaction and body language.
Theres not alot else you can do unless you check up on him constantly and try to catch him out.
If he isn't cheating though this way round could be the relationship breaking as to you not trusting him.
Good luck :o)
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (28 September 2006):
Follow him ? There isnt a sure fire way, but if you have a gut instinct about it, then its only a matter of time before he will foul up. There must be some reason you think that he is cheating ? How he behaves, what hes been up to etc.. Far short of coming out and asking him, you say he wouldnt admit it, what man would! then you either have to go snooping, which is also a relationship breaker, or indeed just ask outright. There are no common signs, but is out longer than usual, is he uncontactable for periods of time, is his phone on silent around you, does he shower more often, make more of an effort with his appearance, does he suddenly want less sex at home, or more than usual ? now all those things can be pretty normal but if its exaggerated in anyway it could be an indication that hes cheating but not a guarantee.. Be sure you think he is cheating before snooping or following him etc, as if he isnt you will be the bad guy!
Good luck and I hope things work out for you!
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reader, Yos +, writes (28 September 2006):
Other than hiring a private investigator (or becoming one yourself) there is no guaranteed way.
The simplest way is to ask him directly and look him straight in the eyes when you do. You will know in your heart if he is telling the truth. It sounds like you might know already. Trust your instincts, they are very powerful and in this situation usually reliable.
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reader, zoe123 +, writes (28 September 2006):
ask him if he is and if he says yes then just say i guess we didnt work out together sozzy!!!!!!!!!!
and u cry if u want if hes ur true love !!!!!!!!!!!!!xxxxxx
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