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writes:After a year long relationship with an abusive partner, I have a lot of self esteem and trust issues, any suggested reading? Or helpful advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): Head straight for the internet. There are loads of good advice places on there. Just google it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): I know what you are going through. I was married to a wife beater for 20 years, yes, 20! I went to hell and back on many occasions but i never gave up hope and my self esteem took a real battering. I met someone too soon after and we had a son together, he was totally all wrong for me. I should of stay single until i had sorted out my head and gathered my confidence. My advice to you is to take each day as it comes and celebrate it. Do something at least once per week that you want to do, not because you have to do it. And gradually you will gain all your self esteem back. But do not rush into another relationship. That is the worst possible thing you can ever do. If you want some reading material, have a look down at your local library or maybe look on the internet. But the only person who can get yourself back on track is YOU.
Best of luck, there is a lovely world out there, go and grab it with both hands.
take care
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reader, PreciousRose +, writes (17 April 2008):
PreciousRose is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Pokey your advice was really great, I appreciate you taking the time to answer.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 April 2008):
 Go online , there are plenty of materials about self esteem and trust issues.
Google them .
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reader, Pokey  +, writes (17 April 2008):
 Hi there, I'm sorry to hear about your abusive situation and you should be proud that you got out of it in the first place!
Lately I have been listening to The Secret on CD. I throw it on while I'm cleaning. I have found the parts about loving yourself and taking time out to be good to yourself very helpful. I have been in an abusive situation before, and I spent all my time trying to save/fix him, and it left me exausted, scared, & lonely.
Even though that particular relationship was over 4 years ago, it still haunts me. It helps to surround yourself with loving friends as well. Reach out, you may not relize who around you has been abused as well.
I hope this helps, & may you find some much needed peace.
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