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writes:Christmas is going and my boyfriend whome I am going off is hovering around. I am frightened to make plans as I feel he will let me know.We have a child together and the year of his birth my bf left me alone with the baby and my older children for xmas and when away telling me at the last minute. I remember him calling me and asking how is xmas with me and I said I wish there was a pill I could take to make it go away. He sounded a little taken a back and said he will call me. I did not hear from him for weeks. I dropped into the most serious depression that I had ever been in. May have been delayed post natal depression. I had never known anyting so dreadful. The year after I cancelled xmas. I felt so sorry for my kids as I could not bear the shops, the music, every one being happy. I was frighten I was going to get depressed again. Its been ten years I have known him for 26 years. Our child is nearly 7 and I can only recall one christmas together. I have not been intimate with him since our summer holiday in the Caribbean and he is now hovering around again. I sent him an e-mail telling him all the things I am unhappy abound. He didnot reply but tried to come round but I would not let him in.I have started falling for another guy who does not know I like him yet but I feel I am ready for a change. I wasted 10 years with my first relationship where I had 2 children. I thought this one would change mylife and make he happier - but I am not.I have my own life - I teach, I own 2 houses, 2 cats and can afford a holiday every so often 0 but so loney on the family and relationship side.Any advice appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your response. This guy use to accuse me of nagging. I dont know how I nagged when I hardly saw him. I told him he needs to stop muddling me up with his mother! Why do men muddle up communicating with nagging?
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (20 December 2009):
 well you have kids so theres some family dont neglect them because some guy broke your heart, I cant imagine christmas being cancelled as a kid that would have sent me into depression Halloween birthdays and CHRISTMAS are what a childs life revolve around. any way i suggest maybe you make some moves on this new guy and see if hes interested other then that just move on be satisfied with what you got in life more then most. Not everyone falls in love and lives happily ever after even if you have a husband hes gonna gro old and die and you will still end up alone us men just dont last that long i think it has something to do with the constant nagging slowly eating away our life expectancy. but really be happy with what you have and get this guy out of your life for good stop letting him drive you nuts if anything get some child support out of him take him to court.
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