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writes:My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me a few weeks ago because he is no longer in love with me and told me he wants to move on and do different things in life. I've been very devastated as I feel the complete opposite and I'm still in love with him. I know I have to move on, but I'm finding this very overwhelming for me. I can't concentrate on my college work, I haven't been sleeping or eating good, I've been a mess. He was my world and I didn't expect this. Any advice on how to get over a break up?
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reader, Saff  +, writes (10 November 2015):
 It's one of the hardest things for any person to do. Being told the one your so madly in love with does no longer love you. You need to remember your self worth. If he could still love you; he probably would. Don't blame yourself for a thing. Is matured and things like this tend to happen after a long lasting relationship.
You need to concentrate on yourself. Delete all contact until you know you are over him and so it does not hinder you from moving on. Take a break on holiday or have a few nights out with friends, do anything and everything to keep yourself busy. It's a slow process and of course will not be easy but time is the best healer and one day very soon you will look back on it with no feeling at all.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2015): Go to youtube and type in Break up NLP...any variations of it with the word NLP. It will help you lots and gives quick fixes for the anxiety. Find a technique that works for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2015): The only real healer is time. Time gives you hindsight, perspective and loads of other things you can't see in the immediate aftermath of a breakup.at the moment you are still raw, it is a horrible feeling but this is just something you have to work through.You can help yourself heal faster by relaxing and doing things you enjoy, get involved in tasks and activities that engage you and take your mind off things. Spend time with friends and family.Most importantly do not stalk your ex online or otherwise don't look at pictures pretend they don't exist for now. Later on when you feel better and have gone through the 'shitty depressed phase' you can sort out that box of photos or gifts from the ex. But for now just leave it. Breaking up sucks and is something pretty much everyone goes through at some point but you will come out the otherside in your own time- life goes on :)
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