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writes:hi allI just received and accepted a bid to join the a very prestige fraternity, and im starting the initiation process. I have had alot of fun at the rush parties, where we usually invite another sorority over. I have alot of fun hanging out with my newfound brothers, and I have talked to alot of women, usually to the point of exchanging first names, handshaking or hugging, and saying a few general conversation lines. The thing is, conversations at these parties usually dont last very long, so I was wondering, how can I get them to be a little more productive, you know to the point of where I can get a phone number/ screename or maybe even a time hang-out, with some of these girls, without sounding to desperate? Like sorority girls are kinda different, they are always busy with stuff, and you DO NOT want to try to pick up a girl whose boyfriend is one of your fraternity brothers. thank you for your time everyone! Reply to this Question
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reader, maverick  +, writes (10 February 2008):
 You know, I bet some one is going to say "Just be youself"... just you wait and see. Lol. That's awful advice.Nah that won't work. You need to be your confident, calm and funny self. Try a few things....- Say hello to everyone - even guys. Show EVERYONE how friendly you are, see a guy with a funky T-Shirt? Tell him so! Girls will see how you confident you are.- Before you say anything make sure you're smiling, even if you going to tell someone their mother just died. Smiling is infectius.- Keep an upright body posture, and hold something in your hand, like a drink - it will cut back the nervous figiting.- Make eye contact everytime! Keep it constant with girls but occassional with guys.- When you meet anyone spot something about them and then have fun about it. "Hey those a really cool shoes - you've got style, you might make a good shopping buddy sometime?" (Worked 5 out of 14 attempts for me)- Introduce other guys - even randomly. This makes you more attractive... "Wow he's getting me to meet this other guy, so he must have others to pick... so he must be desirable"- Ask open questions.- Stay away from people who have arms folded or don't turn their body towards you, when your having a chat.- Spend 70% of the time letting the other person talk and 30% of the time you listening. When you do open your mouth say something along the "Me too!" variety.- Don't think about you, think about how to get the other person having a great time talking to you!- Give gentle nudges, taps and quick strokes between their hands and upper arm.- And most importantly. YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT GETTING A GIRL'S NUMBER!!! Don't stress yourself of people will pick it up.You should invest some time and money if possible in body language, and relationship books. Good luck.
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