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writes: Hey.I'm a little worried right now because i am only 12 and i really want a child! I have never thought about this before i had my period. it worries me because i know i am way too young to have a child at this age but i am stupid enough to do so and regret it the next day. Any advice to stop thinking about having kids at this age?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2006): Oh my, 12 and thinking that you want a child already, are you mad, you have not lived your own life yet, get out there and see the world, you havent even sat your exams yet and that will mess up the chances of you gaining things in life, live a little see the world, your time will come but not just yet, think of all those things you want to do and would you be able to do that carting a child round, have you spoke to your parents about this, what do they think, i go clubbing a lot and i tell you something its great you can just get up, go out get ready, have fun and not have to worry about a babysitter, i have done alot of mad things from the age of 12 and i dont regret them one bit, i dont want kids till i am about 25-28 and i am 21 now, when i have that child i can sit there with him/her in my arms and think to myself you were worth waiting for and look back on my younger teenager lives and think to myself yeah i did that and you know what its been great nothing there to stop me from doing that. think about please you are still a kid yourself
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2006): I can understand the urge to have children, ever since i was your age, all i wanted to do was have kids, i kept thinking i wanted the right man to have them with as well and so i'll wait... and i did, i came across the right man and have just become pregnant for the first time - right now i'm wishing this bit was over, the amount of sickness i'm constantly feeling, along with the headache and tiredness i'm not sure my body can cope. Keep reminding yourself of that if it helps, it's gonna be a sicky, tiring and hurting start to a pregnancy. Not that i'm moaning at all i know the result will be wonderful, but concentrate on the sick bit and it might put you off he he.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (22 February 2006):
 Remind yourself that you're 12 -- you're still a kid yourself. Remember, you get at most 15 years to be a kid, but you have to be an adult for the next 70 or 80. You'll have close to the next 30 years to decide when or whether to have kids. There's no rush!
When you have these new and amazing feelings (of lots of different kinds) and you find yourself saying "Oh my god, I've never felt like this before!" remind yourself that you're changing into a different, mature person, so OF COURSE you're going to feel a lot of things you've never felt before. That goes along with maturation. Feeling things is not an order to act on those feelings, any more than having an idea demands that you carry it out. Just enjoy the new flowering of thoughts and ideas you're having.
Finally, it's possible that the idea of a baby is something that your unconscious mind is pushing to the surface, as a kind of symbol of your pending adulthood. The idea that you *could* (theoretically) have a baby could just be your unconscious getting excited about your leaving your own childhood behind. And if that's true, that's fine, that's a good thing. But again, it doesn't mean you have to act on the thought.
Remember that you have a lot of fun to enjoy in the next 10-20 years. Going out with friends, dating guys, watching movies all night, going to uni, starting your career and on and on. Having a baby basically puts on that stuff on the back burner, because a child always has to come first in your life. Just remember that what you're having is the *idea* of a baby, but the reality is far different from the fantasy.
Once your hormones start to settle down a bit (couple of years at most), you'll probably find that this idea settles down and goes away, at least until you get a bit older.
Don't worry!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2006): with hormones runnin around everwhere i'm sure its completely normal.Do you know someone with a baby? Ask if you can babysit it for a couple of days or live with it for a week...surefire contraceptive for anyone needing a reality check!!good luck
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