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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey. I want to know why i always feel like i'm the only girl in the whole world that can't deal with her period. Everytime I get it i constantly stay home. I'm always afraid to go to school with it, because i'm afraid i'm gonna have an accident and everyone's gonna know. I know people have said "just wear a pad and everything will be fine" but it's not fine. Pads don't make me feel protected. I feel like they're not enough. My problem is that i get nervous about my period and then it gets heavy once i get to school. And at school, i'm constantly going into the bathroom to make sure it's not getting too heavy. (my friends have noticed) I can't use tampons. The last time i tried to use my first one, i chickened out. Now this saturday, i'm supposed to go to a sleep over birthday party and we're going up all the way to the Mall of America and it's so far away from home. I'm afraid i'm going to have to tell my friend i can't go. The same thing happened with my grandpa. In december he had asked me if i had wanted to go skiing. I said yes, but the day he was going to come get me, I THOUGHT I was going to get my period and never went. Now he wants to try again this month during the week that I DO get my period. I just don't know what to do. My mom wants to take me to the doctor, but it's not like they can do anything. There probably just going to tell me my period's irregular because i'm so young. I heard they could give me the pill but i was told that that just makes your period lighter. I'm just always so afraid...And now i have to go to school on my first day of my period once again. I always know i'm just going to have a terrible day.Please help me if you canThank you!
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (5 February 2009):
 Well the pill is one option for you that will give you some control over your periods. It is a wonderful thing for that! It makes your periods shorter and lighter, and without all the cramps and moodiness before hand. They also have the days printed on the packs so you know which pill is for which day, and then when you come to the end you can guarantee your period will arrive in 2-3 days time.
If you dont like the idea of taking birth control at such a young age then maybe you will have to be brave and try tampons. I was like you at your age; couldnt bring myself to use tampons but hated pads as I was always paranoid they were going to leak, move around etc.
Eventually I tried tampons and life has been so much better since. I find the non-applicator ones easier to use (slightly more disgusting as you have to insert it yourself but easier to get in). The applicator ones are scary looking and can sometimes go in at a funny angle and be uncomfortable.
Try using a non-applicator even when you are not on your period for practice. all you have to is position it in the entrance of your vagina and then push with one finger and it is done! It cant go in too far as you naturally have a "wall" in there, and the string attached to the bottom means you will never lose it!
Tampons make you feel much more secure, there is no leakage as they expand inside you to fit your body. Change them every 4-6 hours and you wont even notice you are on your period! You can do all sorts with them in, even go swimming (just remeber to trim the string a bit so it doesnt show!).
Once you get over the initial scariness of using a tampon for the first time (for the first few hours you might feel a bit uncomfortable and you will have to practice getting it in the right position) you will wonder how you ever coped without them!
Whether you go with the pill or tampons, they should both give you much more security and stop you worrying so much!
Good luck!
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