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30-35,
anonymous
writes: i cant forget my girlfriend's sexual past although she accepts the fact that i have slept with a hooker and my ex girlfriend. i feel like an asshole for being like this. we really love each other and want to get married too. i love her too much and can't let her go but at the same moment it is killing me inside that she had sex with her ex boyfriend and gave him blow jobs. Don't even feel like kissing her after hearing that. maybe its because they were together for a really long time and did it very often and she don't even know how many times they did it where i have done it only 3 times. what should i do ? i try to forget about it all day and i get very bad headache trying to put it out of my head. how should i get it out of my mind ? please help me.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (4 February 2009):
 Unfortunately everyone has a past, not many people find their true love straight away and have to make some mistakes with a few people before they find the right person.You need to stop focusing on the past - accept that you cannot change it. You love her and want to marry her; you are lucky to have found someone you feel that way about! Can you honestly imagine being without her? Because that is your only other option; if you let the past eat you up inside then you will lose the girl you love.I think people today make the mistake of going into too much detail about their sexual history; I think you should stop all conversations about both of your sexual histories in the past and concentrate on the future. The two of you together can make so many fun memories together and enjoy each other sexually - concentrate on the future not the past. I know it is hard to get her past out of your head and there is no easy way to do this; but with some determination you will get through it.Think about how understanding she has been with you; arguably sleeping with a hooker is a lot worse than sleeping with a long term ex partner! Make sure you have both been tested for STD's (especially yourself after the hooker). If you are getting headaches from trying to get it out of your head then clearly you are thinking about it way too much! Stop worrying, concentrate on how happy this girl makes you and start making a future together otherwise you will lose someone very special.
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