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writes:I've never had anal sex nor had my ass eaten out. My boyfriend wants to try something new and I'm up for it. If I've never had anyone barely even touch my ass, will it feel good when he does it? Or will it take some getting used to. I'm kind of weirded out about it right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): Kudos for even trying.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (8 January 2010):
 It's an individual thing; some people get into it, some are grossly turned off by it. So start slow and see how you feel. You'll know if it's enjoyable or not and if it's not, then don't let him continue.
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reader, Not My Name +, writes (8 January 2010):
 Only one way you're gunna find out if you like it or not, and that is by trying it.
In most people's experience there is a degree of pain attached to initial penetration, so yes it will most likely take some getting used to before it stops hurting but it will lessen each time. The actual sensation of it may take some getting used to aswell.
Make sure you are very relaxed, (ideally having already had an orgasm by other means) resist the reflex to tense up your muscles if it hurts coz that will only make it hurt more. Focusing on breathing slowly and deeply will help you relax your body more too.
Establish up front that YOU are to be in control at all times, whether that is by verbally letting him know how to proceed, if you need to stop a minute (or altogether), etc, during it, ... or by adopting a position that physically does put you in control -eg: you on top.
Yes, yes, yes, to what others have said - take it slow initially and use lots and lots of lube, ... but I have to ask that you disregard the Anon posters suggestion of Vaseline. Vaseline is oil based and therefore can break down the structure of the condom that you should be using to protect not only from std's but your partner from bacterial infections.
Opt for a silicone or water based lubricant instead. I also don't reccommend desensitizing gels etc, as pain can sometimes be your friend by letting you know when something is a bit much for your body to be taking. You can tho get lube with jojoba in it that is not desensitizing, but helps relax the anal sphincter.
Relax, have fun, and hopefully you are one of the lucky women who finds it extremely stimulating with mind blowing orgasms ;-)
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (7 January 2010):
 One thing to be careful of is him inserting his penis in your vagina after anal. If you try anal, let that be the icing on the cake for the night. The anus is full of bacteria that isn't a good mix for the vagina.
As everyone said, use lots of lube, take your time, and relax!
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, unappeciatied +, writes (7 January 2010):
Be patient , dont rush, and use lots of lubricant. Find out what type of lubricant is good with ur skin. Anal sex can be very enjoying, however u dont want to have a bad experience the first time. Doing it the wrong way can leave u with permanant damage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): hi. I tried Anal and let me tell you it can be a little painful. Use a lot of Vaseline. That will ease it. However let me warn you. Anal is not as pleasurable to the woman as it is to the man. My boyfriend said it felt real tight. and I have a tight vag myself. But still tighter!! must be something right. He had his most intense orgasm the first time we had anal sex. You wont feel much of anything except the pain ofcourse but your man will have his day. Worth doing it for him - Once atleast. Then you can reconsider.
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reader, meg2989 +, writes (7 January 2010):
 Well, it will take you time to get comfortable with it. I really think it depends on the person on wether it feels could or not, I've had friends that loved it and friends that hated it, I personally like it, but its just my opinion. Eating your ass out wouldn't be painful for you, but it may take you some gettin used to. Anal sex on the other hand... don't have him just put his cock in right away. Its too tight and it would probably hurt a bit considering that one's anus is never as pliable as a vagina is. I would suggest that you or he finger your ass for a few weeks ( I'm sorry I know its a bit graphic lol)as to stretch it a bit and so you can get used to having something inside you anally. ( Make sure you shower and clean yourself well before) Be warned that at first you may feel like you have the runs, and probably will after. I know it sounds embarressing but its normal, its just your bowels cleaning themslves out, due to stimulation. Really nothing to worry about. Also if you do end up having anal sex make sure you take it slow and that he uses lube. You will most likely need it. I hope that answered the questions you may have. Talk to him more about it and have fun with it. Good luck!
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