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writes:Lately, I've been having an extreme fit of sadness when I orgasm. An accurate description of the feeling would be; an overwhelming sense of extreme sadness, hopelessness, and a feeling of desperate longing. The strange feeling only lasts for the duration of the orgasm, after which, the feeling leaves as if it had never existed. I have subconciously quit masturbating due to the desparity the feeling causes and the memories it reawakens. I am quite certain that this feeling has been brought about by my recent break-up with a young lady I very much loved. Perhaps I have learned to associate that extremely intimate and pleasurable feeling with our romantic occasions and now I subconciously transfer those memories when masturbating. I do believe that I am also depressed; as I have a surprising amount of the symptoms. In any case, I don't know what's wrong with me exactly and I'm worried that I might be in a worse state of mind than I assumed. I'm wondering if anyone has dealt with something similar to what I'm experencing or if anyone has an explanation or a medical analysis of my current issue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): I have had the EXACT same situation happen to me, rather recently too. I just toned down the masturbating and I try not to think of 'him' when i do... i think you just need to let yourself heal first, it will come back again. I'm sorry your going through this... but I just wanted to say that your post has given me some great releif in knowing I am not the only who has this same experience. It certainly is an emotional thing... I wish I had advice to give, but this sort of thing still continues with me but progressively better as I have let go of 'him' and found new interests to persue.Good luck. Time heals all. And your not alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): Depression is most likely what is going on here. See a doctor and find someone or somewhere that you can talk about how you're feeling, don't keep it inside. It's completely normal to be feeling and behaving this way. You shared something very intimate with someone and it was a pleasant experience and now that the relationship is over those happy moments are being replaced by sad ones. In time it will get better...the amount of time can never be estimated though, might be months, could be years. The important thing for you is to try and find happiness in life still. Go out and do things that you enjoy and try to focus on other areas of your life that do make you happy and don't focus so much on the sex/masturbation part for right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): Depression is not to be taken lightly. Look up the Breck depression test and take it. It is NOT an official diagnosis, but it may help you privately decide if you need to seek help.
also, sometimes feelinds of sadness, isolation, self hatred, and anxiety during sex or orgasm are usually associated with sexual abuse or trauma. The abuse could be from years before, but something could have recently sparked the feelings again. I'm not saying you were abused or raped, but sometimes that is an answer.
Most important though is taking care of yourself. Don't let this plague you. Talk to someone trained to counsel, to whom you can disclose more info. Don't deal with depression alone, you never win, I know.
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reader, Traceyann  +, writes (2 April 2010):
I experience exactly the same things! It's terrible, I cry and feel totally utterly lost and sad. I miss my lover so badly, I presume it happens because of that reason. I do not know how to deal with it, and it's impossible for me to masterbate without thinking of him. My heart goes out to you....I can totally relate to what you are going through.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (2 April 2010):
 I agree with you, it's probably an association with your ex girlfriend. This will probably be cured during your next relationship because you'll have someone new who loves you back to associate the feeling with.
If you think you are depressed, then see a doctor. But what are your symptoms? Because you said the sadness goes when your orgasm finishes, but I would have thought that if you were depressed the sadness probably would have continued.
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