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*ala_makimaki
writes:Me and my gf have been together for a years plus now, she is 16 and I am 18. I can honestly say I truly love her and she loves me. I was her 1st major boyfriend. We've been very happy together, we've been discussing about out future and we're ready to go through life together side by side. It happened on last year's(2007) xmas eve. We went out for xmas's count down and it happened that day I was really very down. So, i gave her cold shoulders the whole day. She asked what happened and concerned me but I really didnt know what to do and what to say on that day. So, i went quiet. Then after awhile she mentioned why dont we remain as friends. I was already so down and she came out with this question. It made me feel worst and i felt on the spot saying fine. But after awhile i reflected on myself and what i've done was wrong. And she became cold ever since then. Two days later we broke up. She said she didnt have the feelings for the relationship she used to have and she said she've been trying very hard to search back the feelings. And i've heard inbetween the days a guy who is 25 consoled her and she had feelings for the guy. Everything was so normal before Xmas eve. Sigh.I've spoken to her friend, and they all have been surprised because we get on so well. What should I do? This is my frist relationship.I really love her and see her as a best mate as well as a girlfriend.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 January 2008):
 You two should take a break and cool things down.This will give both of you time to reflect back on your relationships.If your love is strong , she will come back to you.
You need to apologize to her and admit that it was your fault and mistake .Then wait for her response.
You need to grow up and treat her better. Think of her first before you do anything together.Girls like to feel they are wanted and the most important person in your life.
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reader, Nick838  +, writes (8 January 2008):
The most important thing you can do right now is communicate. Make her feel in controll. Go to her with an appology, and ask her for forgiveness (even if she had something to do with it too). Tell her that it had nothing to do with her, and express your feelings. Be honest, though. Don't make up excuses.
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