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chandra Mcmillan
writes:In 2004 after turning 16 years old I visited my sister at Uni and we went out to a night out and started getting bothered by a very drunk and aggressive man. I thought I could handle it but before long he was becoming increasingly rough and aggressive towards me and my sister. As I fought him away a man walked over with long dreadlocks and a small beard, a pierced nose and nice smile. He gripped the man and told him to leave the club and the man agreed and left. He was a knight in shining armor to me. Soon we were talking and the club was closing so my sister invited him back to her dorm room. We had a few more drinks and we slept next to one another on the floor curled up like we had been together for years. The next day I spent with him and for a the rest of the week we were always together but I had to return home to Sheffield. For 3 months we stayed in contact he gave me a phone so we could contact one another and he came and met my parents and asked them almost for their blessing for us to date. They liked him immediately. He told me from the start that he was 36 and I told him I was 16 but I have always acted much older, He also explained he had had a drug problem although he didn't do them any more. I explained If I found he was still using any drugs I would leave no questions asked he agreed but he has nt used any drugs for 5 years now. He explained he had just become divorced and he also had a daughter 9 and a son 12. This was a little weird but I loved him and so I knew I had a responsibility to take them on as my own. After I finished my GCSE exams and passed my mum and dad drove me to Leicester where I moved in with my partner. 4 YEARS LATER and we are still strong we have the normal arguments most couples do. my step son has moved in and we are really happy. I just wanted to let people know that at 16 if mature most people can have a real serious relationship if they wish. We are to be married in October 09 and the kids are more than excited.Everyone should have a chance to be happy.
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reader, chandra Mcmillan +, writes (7 October 2008):
chandra Mcmillan is verified as being by the original poster of the question Julie [bby] I am replying to the question of advice that you have asked. I was very lucky that my parents supported me in my relationship and I can see how you are slightly stuck in what to do. I would say that you have tread carefully, I know you love him and I was in the same situation as you but Marraige is somthing that comes in time with the struggles and the general life together. I would never advice anyone to marry until they have lived with each other for a few years, suprisingly living together can change things, you find that they have annoying habits, they snore, you could argue, and it is not uncomon for people to think they are not as in Love once they have lived in each others pockets for a while.I would advice that if you and your boyfriend are really in love! Use your maturity to tell your parents that you Love them and that you see what they are trying to get through to you! They want to protect there little girl and thats all. There not there to ruin your life and make you misrebal. But then you need them to understand how you feel and this is you feel you are in love and if it is not meant to be with this man it is your life and your mistakes however he could be your husband until the day you both die. Just be careful that you dont make your family feel like outsiders, ask your mum for girly advice even if you dont really need it. Tell your dad that you are growing up but you still love him.If say u go bowling with your boyfriend, come home with a smile on your face and tell them all about it how much fun it was etc. As for him moving away, true love will keep were ever you or he maybe and if he loves you as much as you love him he should stay faithful constantly call and when you reach the legal age you can go visit move in together or you may find it hasn't worked out. I wish you all the best of luck! Please remember your mum and dad love you and just want you to be safe and well.And you do deserve your relationship to work and I hope it does.
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reader, julie[bby]  +, writes (6 October 2008):
![julie[bby] agony aunt](/avatars/1eb4914e-ff51-43ca-9fb5-8d443c089096.png) omg!! im totally inspired by your story!!! you see.. im 16 turning 17 in a month and my boyfriend is 24...were 7 years and 4 months apart. im not a normal 16 year old either..im very mature for my age.yet everyone says that im too young to be in serious relationship and that i dont love him im just IN love or IN lust, but i now my feelings and i do love him.everyone in my family doesnt like that we are dating..i wannt to get married to him soo much but im just scared that my parents will say no. my boyfriend and i are in a bad sit. he just got kicked out and the only option he has is to move up to kanas city wit his brother but i cant got with him because of my age and laws. for a while now i have been thinking of getting married to him and now that this has happened im thinking bout it more. ur story has told me that everyone can have a happy ending..i hope mine is just as good as yours. do u have any suggestions bout what i should do?
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