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writes:my first boyfriend and I had a tempestuous but passionate relationship, eventually he hurt me too much and about four years ago I had to leave him, he broke my heart but I still cared about him as he was my best friend, since then he has always told me he loved me and made no secret that he still wanted to be with me, now for the first time since then he has a new girlfriend and I feel very confused, I feel like I've never felt before and I know I just want him to be happy, but I feel sad and slightly replaced, I dont want him to forget about me but I dont want to ruin his relationship either, am I wrong for feeling like this? am I jealous or just scared of loosing my friend? I feel so confused, I've never felt this way about any of my other exes when they moved on, so why do I feel this way with him?
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reader, blackgoose  +, writes (29 January 2011):
You are definitely not wrong for feeling this way. This is a normal feeling especially since he was the one hurting YOU and you had the guts to walk even though you still loved him. Not many people are capable of this. As you two were/are close friends, it would be difficult to not only see him with another girl, but also he would probably be spending much less time speaking to you which understandably would be a painful transition for you. As frustrating and upsetting it may sound, it might be best if you took a few steps back from him - for both of your sakes. Give him some time to see if his new relationship to grow and most importantly give you some time for you. You won't feel any better by hearing/seeing about how happy he is with this new girl, it is not worth the trouble it will bring to you. As you said, the relationship was a passionate one - but passion doesn't always equal a stable/happy relationship. However the passion might explain why it is much harder for you to accept that he is moving on. Good luck with everything, I hope this has helped a little
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011): You still love him and more then any one else you went with that why you're jealous and scared about losing him. Does he know you still love him? Maybe you should tell him he might still love you. You won't know unless you tell him about the way you're going love sick.
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