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writes:hi,i've found the perfect guy. he treates me amazing, he's 5 years older than me, but thats no worry to me. but yeah, he is just like the man of my dreams.the only problem is i keep messing everything up. but i dont know if i am being a b**** or not. i am kinda a natural flirt. but hes so paranoid. like we'd be playing poker on facebook, and id just be chatting away being nice, having a little flirt but nothing massive, like this man i was chatting to. i asked which one he was in his photo as there was 3 people in there, and he told me which one and said he's taking it with them and it makes him look better as he thinks he's ugly, so i say u look good, and my boyfriends has a right go at me.we've fallen out now. but the one thing that bugs me is that he's going back to uni like 2 hours drive away soon and i wont see him very often and hes a flirt too, hes admitted and i know there will be loads of girls coming on to him, but i am falling in love with him, and i want to be with him for a very long time! so i don't know, am i wrong in the flirting or is he too over reacive. ive had quite a rough upbringing so i dont know if thats rubbing off?any comments would be greatsorry for going on for a bit thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): I love the way the people with the shorter comments are the ones that apologize about the length of their question.
I don't think theres anything wrong with the flirting. You aren't cheating on him. Your doing it in front of him for crying out loud, although hes probably thinking what are you like without him being there...
So to answer question 1, I think its a bit of both; he's over-reacting a bit and your flirting is a bit much for him. I wouldn't worry about the rough upbringing - I mean its concerning but for your question, I don't think its rubbing off. A lot of people flirt like that at your age - or the region of.
Now the next bit might sound a bit harsh but its what I think, not that I'm always right.
He will probably be majorly attracted to a few of the girls there. They are always going to be there. They are his age. They're as smart as him. They're more mature - not that your not because you do sound mature, just that they've been through more and have more experiences. They might understand him more. They can do more stuff that you can't.
I know your falling in love with him, and I suggest you talk to him about your worries, and basically everything you've told us actually.
If you do have to get over him, you can keep in contact with him obviously, but it might be best for a while that you don't. I know how that feels, trust me.
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