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writes:Alright my boyfrien and i have cellphones when i met him he had girls number and so did I have guys numbers.We didn't start caring untill we started to fall in love. I made him clear out his numbers and i cleared out mine but alot of his numbers we're from friends and olf flings.i'm i wrong for making him stop talking to these girls? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2008): well its really that i don't trust him but if it was the other way around he wouldn't want me talking to guys that i've been with and most of these females that he talks to are old flings or girls that like him. They don't try to get with him untill they find out he has a white girlfriend (he's african American).Plus like I said i dont talk to no guys at all He's the only guy in my life and I expect the same from him.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (29 July 2008):
Yeah I think you are being over jealous here. If you can't accept the fact that he has chosen you then you need to ask yourself why that is.
My husband has hundreds of numbers in his phone, lots of them female, I have no idea who most of them are. To be honest though I don't really care because it doesn't matter who he talks to.
It's me he loves and wants to talk to most.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (29 July 2008):
 Hey hun, just because you are dating this guy it doesn't mean that you own him. If you are not careful you could drive your bf away, because of your lack of trust and insecurities.
He is entitled to have female friends, just as much as you have male friends. What gives you the right to dictate who he talks to?
At the end of the day it is you he loves, and not the other girls. So please cut some slack hun, or you will end up with him actually dumping you because you are mentally suffocating him.
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reader, breezieworthy +, writes (29 July 2008):
i would have to say its not fair because it seemsas if you dont trust him or are afraid of loosing him if he hasnt gave you a reason to make you say hey i dont want you talking to other girls or you've giving him a reason not to feel comfortable with you talking to other guys i dont think its fair for both of you and theres not a healthy relationship if theres not trust in eachother
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reader, Hopelessly Hopeful  +, writes (29 July 2008):
Um, pure and simple...yes. :p A relationship is built on trust. No relationship can stand without it, and I guarantee you from experience, no love is strong enough to hold together a couple that doesn't trust each other. You say you and your boyfriend love each other. Well, if that's true, then trust that he's not after the other grls that may or may not be in his life, but YOU and only you. Some guys are pure and simple man wh0res, I'll grant you that. But do you really think your guy is one of them?? I doubt it, or you wouldnt be him. Guys dont always do well with just guy friends. If he wants to have friends in his life who are grls, why cant you let him? What harm does it do you to allow him his choice in friends? If you love him, you want him to be happy. And if he loves you, although having friends of any gender he chooses will make him happy, YOU will make him happiest. So do something uncomfortable so that he can be more comfortable. And trust each other. It may seem like nothing (or, worse, a subject of extreme jealousy) to you, but you may be surprised at how much it will mean to him that you trust him with other grls around.
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