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writes:My heart is SO heavy...i was seeing this guy for almost a year now.Things were going great between us but we never spoke about what's going on btwn us, we just went with the flow!im not very good with ambiguity in relationships cos if things are discussed then you can never have a sense of entitlement over your partner and he over you! After I confronted him about the situation he agreed with me that we need to communicate intentions and expectations but I haven't heard from him after that(that's almost a week ago). I then decided that I am not going to "run" after him because he's old enough to know what he wants and clearly he's made his decision to stay away.Am I wrong by letting him go? Am I being irrational irrational?I loved him a lot and I dont think I deserve the way he's treating me now!What do you think?Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): No you are not irrational. You have done the right thing. Give him some time and space to sort out his mind. Don't contact him. If you don't hear from him again, well then you know, he would have been using you, just striging you along.
ALDOUS HUXLEY said:" There isn't any formula or method. You learn to love by loving".
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reader, Miss Potter  +, writes (22 October 2008):
 Hello, well you made the first step forward, he seems to have gone back to his cave to hide...
I say let him make up his mind, let him be for a while, I dont know how much time you should allow for this, but not too much I guess. After all this time the guy should know whether he wants you or not. If he doesnt - his loss. Move on, date other people to learn more about what kind of partner would suit you.
Best of luck x
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