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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for over 4 years. I am 19 and he is 23. Everything is good between us but my parents failed relationship has always made me scared of being in a relationship myself. When I was younger I always thought it would just be easier to not get into a relationship because of the way my parents relationship was (they have not been happy/loved each other for years). My boyfriend showed me that relationships can work and ours has worked out great. After almost 27 years of marriage my parents are getting a divorce now. I saw it coming for years but that doesn't mean it makes it any easier. I love my boyfriend but I feel this is something I need to deal with on my own. Something I need to figure out on my own and give my siblings my full attenction (I have younger sibings who still live at home). I have suggested to my boyfriend that we "take a break" right now when I try and figure out everything with my family. He is very supportive of me and said he'll "take a step back for me to figure things out." Am I wrong for doing this to him? He says he supports me but I can tell it has upset him and that he's down about it.Is it wrong of me to ask this of him?
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reader, joshua.james +, writes (26 March 2011):
if you want the truth. Yes you are wrong. if you are concerned about taking care of family matters thats fine. let him know and i'm sure hell be fine with not having as much time together as before. but asking to take a break in my opinion is wrong. either your together or not. besides if he is a good guy he could really help you get through this
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