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writes:hey ...i broke up with an ex a while ago(+/-2months)...and it really hurt..i didnt feel it was over ....but she claimed she needed time alone..oh well it killed me but i slowly started to get over the initial pain...but never stopped loving her...we kept contact ...and last friday i took her to a party with me...(everything was cool)...we were just friendly...it was so easy!!!we chatted in the beginning of the evening and as the night progressed (with more booze) we started to get closer and closer and BANG...we ended up kissing again...completely mutual ...it was awsome...she told me she missed me and visa versa...but the strange thing is i thought she lost all feelings for me.... is this just a last little thing and if i do want her back what should i do...i thought she would be freaked out in the morning but she thanked me for a great night and we said we'd see each other again!!! she never wronged me when i was with her and always ...and still respects me....am i wasting my time???? p.s. you should know she is new in South africa from USA but i am 1 of very few friends she has HELP!!!!!
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (1 August 2007):
 Take it slowly. She may have been like you said, drunk and scared. Time will tell. I hope it works out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell i didnt break up with her..she went away to the coast 4 a weekend ..but things were ruff ..no fighting just cold...its like she retracted into a shell or something!!! im not sure if she had a fling at the coast or not!!! but she came backand just ended it... i was certain we were not done... but she told me it was over i begged and pleaded but no response!! now it seems sparks are back...but i worry she was just drunk and lonely when she kissed me!!! its like shes scared cause she knows feelings are real ....or at least on my side...
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reader, just having a ball  +, writes (30 July 2007):
I was in this exact same position two weeks ago with my ex. He invited me 2 a party with him and we were finished 3 months before that and i hadnt seen him since the break up but we we still wer in contact and would talk the odd time. i went to a party with him and at the start we chatted like mates real comfortably and talked about when we were with eachoter.and as the night progressed the closer we got and we wound up kissing and slept with each other. I say give it another go just see how she feels about you and that she isnt playing games with you ask her how she feels and see where it leads you..good luck
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reader, stevie jade  +, writes (30 July 2007):
 Well obviously feelings are still strong between you two.Id ask her if she has had enough time on her own,and have a talk.Admit to each other you still care and suggest you get back together. Try to find out why she felt she needed time away and work on that. I wish you luck.
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reader, Sugarbuns +, writes (30 July 2007):
Well why did you break up with her silly? Maybe you should look at that and determine if it's possible to revive the relationship. Have your feelings change? Has she had time "alone" and realizes she wants you back? My advise is to talk to her and find out what's in her head. Maybe you guys were too quick to break up in the first place. Sometimes when couples fight they say the worst things to each other, and then it's hard to retract them once you've cooled off -- the damage is done, she's packed up her things and left the building. If you guys are guilty of that, perhaps you should re-think the whole break up thing. And next time you fight, don't say extreme things that you'll regret later. Good luck.
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