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anonymous
writes:i've been in a relationship with my bf for 9 months. He's been living back home with his parents since a few months before we met in order for him to save money. We get on really well and laugh together alot but he hasn't mentioned me to his family yet. I've never been invited to where he lives because of this and says he'll tell them when he's ready. I know he isnt married, i'm certain of that. We have talked about it but he just says he's a private person and doesn't want his parents knowing his every move and having to answer lots of questions about me. I can understand that. I got alot of things off my chest last weekend and we talked about it but still he says he doesn't want to tell them about me. So in the last few weeks i've backed off with my feelings and come to terms with being happy with just having a good friend and although i love him and he loves me too, I'm preparing myself for our relationship to not last forever as I can't give all my love to someone who hasn't fully committed to being open about our relationship. We are in touch every day and see each other about 3 times a week.From what he says, they have suspected he has a gf but he bats off any remarks and now they don't bother asking.Am I wasting my time seeing someone for so long who can't bring himself to telling his family about me?
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (12 May 2011):
 Hi
I would say yes you are. When two people are in a relationship, they should be proud of eachother and WANT to show you off. it sounds to me he has something to hide. I can understand some people have issues with this, i.e parents dont agree with different cultures mixing, or arrange marriages, but if this dont apply to you, then something is not right with this picture. I would move on and be with someone who is PROUD to be with me, and not keep me his dirty little secret.
I hope this has helped
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