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writes: I am on my friend's computer, so I have to cut this kind of short...I just turned 15 this year, I am 5' 5" with mid back length curly hair, fairly clear skin... that all sounds good but I am 200lbs. My mom has a condition called PCOS which makes your hormones all wacky and makes you overweight, and lucky me... I got it also. I have a friend, who is extremely kind and who I like a lot, but in a way more than friendship. I've tried to get him to "notice" me, but I feel he just keeps passing me by and it is tearing me up inside... do I really sound that ugly?
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reader, bonym  +, writes (23 May 2006):
 My dear, I dont think you need any more advice and I really admire what hannieseds posted to you, I could not have put it better myself. Now if you want to know about self image, welcome to my world. My friend, as hannieseds you sound gorgeous to me and let me tell you, beauty is not about skin or appearance, do you know that there are some "gorgeous" looking people with "ugly" personalities? And to me, their personality stands out more than theit beauty so they can look like Marylin Monroe but it doesnt mean anything because they have an ugly character. My dear, as I have learned. from since around 5 I have hated myself and I am 23, I was called ugly everyday, so I started to believe it and sure enough I was "ugly" because what is on the inside reflects on the outside, but the day I started to bepositive, not "big headed" or full of myself, but the day when people started saying positive things to me, I let them get deep down into me, so I started to "like" myself and though I dont "love" myself yet, I dont think as I used to think, so I feel better about myself. I strongly believe that God does everything for a reason, if I had been obviously beautiful with everything perfect perhaps I would be an "ugly" person in terms of my character, but although I am no Halle Berry, thats cool cos I am what I am, and I am happy with the way God made me, and if I can help someone else who is going thru what I went through, I am happy. Take god care of yourself and tell yourself everyday, "I am happy with me, and there is NO ONE like me." xXx
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (23 May 2006):
 Awwww, no thank you! You have made my day also by taking heed of what I said and believing it! It is hard not to doubt ourselves sometimes, but when you eliminate that doubt, a big, bright, happy world opens up to us and let nothing stand in our way!
Keep smiling - know that you have also made my day - a little insignificant in New Zealand xxx
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reader, tequilarodeo +, writes (23 May 2006):
tequilarodeo is verified as being by the original poster of the question :D thank you hannieseds, you have made my day.... i feel much better now! I'm going to have perma grin for awhile...
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reader, hannieseds +, writes (23 May 2006):
Hello there,
I want you to stop right there! You sound absolutely gorgeous! And no, I am not just saying that! I am 23 and have dealt with weight issues my whole life. Up until I was 18 I didn't have a boyfriend and thought it must be because I am a 'big girl'. Now, I haven't changed much, if anything I have put on weight!, I have been with my man for 5 years and he comments every single day on how beautiful I am.
As the saying goes, beauty comes from within, and as you get older you will realise how true that saying is.
I am sincerely sorry you inherited this condition, but it sounds to me like you aren't letting it get you down too much, which it shouldn't because, apart from that, you are a healthy, happy, beautiful teenage girl with a whole big, bright future ahead of her.
As for this boy, another thing you will learn as you get older, they don't take so well to hints, so my suggestion to you, if you really think he is worth you and your efforts, is to be straight up and ask him out to a movie, or even a milkshake or something like that? If you're friends already, he won't think these requests as anything more than friendship, that way there will be no pressure and you can slowly start to show him more of yourself.
The reason he probably hasn't 'noticed' you is because he sees you as a friend and he probably thinks you see him just as that as well, or hasn't given it any further thought (boys can be dumb like that). So just slowly start suggesting more 'outings' together and just let things roll!
Now - I was you to get up right now and go to the mirror, or even better, to the window and shout out to the entire street I AM A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN! And start believing it! Guys are more attracted to what your personality is like, trust me on that one. xxxx
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