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writes:First of all, please don't judge me by my age, so many people have and it gets annoying.I'm a fifteen (almost sixteen) year old girl, and the thing is I've been in love with one of my best friends (who is female) since I was thirteen. I know its not just a crush, I would literally die for this girl without a seconds hesitation..and I think she might like me too..I flirt with her sometimes and she flirts back.We are both the same age, except I'm a few months older...I'll be 16 in December, her in April.The thing is, I have had "crushes" on both girls and boys.I'm confused though...The idea of sex as a female repulses me, I hate my female body, especially as I have a very feminine figure... I've often wished that I could be a boy, and that the girl I'm in love with was too. I guess I could say I'm a gay boy in a bisexual girls body... I even get my friends to call me Ryan instead of Emma.I haven't got a clue what to do about this, my mama just calls me a "Fag Hag" and asks me why don't I just have a sex change operation...Can anyone help me figure out whats going on, I have wondered in the past if I'm transgender... but I've been feeling like this since I was twelve.The thing is, am I transgender? Or is this just a phase? I really need answers, because this is getting in the way of everything.
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reader, FFF5  +, writes (24 November 2009):
Are you serious? Listen, being gay or even bisexual is different than being transgender. Very often in teenage years teens go through these issues of sexuality but they may get over it later on. You really should embrace your beautiful woman's body because there is a lot that we women can do and being a man is not one of them. Leave being a man up to men!! For gods sake you are a beautiful woman, understand and embrace that, you are far too young to be deciding on sex change, don't be crazy. Your mother needs to set you straight, put some make up on, do your hair, this girl may be trying to take advantage of you but you are at an age where these things can still be altered. Please help yourself and most importantly beeeeeeee yourself!!!! Don't follow others. This is a very sensitive subject. You shouldn't even be having sex at this age, my goodness. I lost my virginity at 20. People have thoughts, but don't take it too far, you will regret it later on. Surround yourself with positive people, and focus on goals, school and dreams, not damned sex!!! God bless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2009): you are the only person who can make this decision and you need to carefully think about it, its not just something you can toss a coin to.
It sounds like you want to be a boy, however you could jus be a tomboy a girl who acts like a boy and happens to be gay aswell.
If your sure that ur friend feels feelings for you then talk to her but be sure first because you wouldnt want to ruin your friendship over this.
best of luck with whatever you do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): This is really something you need to be talking to a professional psychiatrist about.I personally think its probably not a phase at this point. There are many cases with people being unhappy about the way they were born and having operations to change their sex.I personally don't agree with this. A person is born as they should be. Unless there is a valid medical problem (such as illness, deformities that hinder life-quality) than such a dramatic change should be avoided. One must learn to accept themselves as they are. Not change every little detail as we see fit because we can't deal with even slight imperfections in ourselves. This is why I will tend to refer to people who've had a sex change as their original sex as opposed to their changed one... you can't change your genes... they will always be one sex or the other.However, my opinion here isn't important. Once you hit the age of 16, it will be YOUR opinion that matters. Only YOU know whats best for you. And I would never take that away. Nor would I take away your lawful, and dare I say it, moral right to do to your body as you wish if it makes you happy.So whilst I may not agree with sex-changes and the like, its not something that should ever be held against someone and the individual's happiness here is paramount above any reservations and moral disgreements like mine.Do what makes you happy.Flynn 24
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