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writes: I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over two years. We love eachother, there is no doubt about that, but he has done some things i can't seem to forget about. He's never cheated on me (that i know of) but he admitted to asking for a girls number to see if "he still has game". He's done other things along these lines as well, and i find this odd because he was hurt in a previous relationship by the sames means of what he is doing to me now.I am still young (under 20) but have no doubt what love is, and know for a fact i am in it. I also feel that with this love comes anger, jealousy and sometimes even hatred. Am i just too young to understand what a real man is, or are there guys out there who could love a woman and not be remotely interested in what any other women have to offer?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2006): Why would he see if he was still game and ask for girls numbers? He's with you, he doesn't need to see if he can still pull, he's pulled YOU and is with YOU!! He sounds well immature, reckon he is not ready for a relationship. The aunts on here are too soft and gentle with their advice. Get to the point I always think, no point putting flowers on it, best to speak straight!!
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reader, camille  +, writes (1 June 2006):
 My male relative once told me that any man offered it would take it. I was devastated. I spoke with a male friend who said that was rubbish. He himslef had been in bed with a 'friend' who was trying to get him to have sex with her, but he refused (He was single, straight and she wasn't unattractive). Some men find it a turn off! Anyway, he did do something that's not pleasant for you to know, but at least he was honest with you. That's got to be worth something? It's natural for men & women to be attrcated to each other or maybe just to look. It doesn't mean he will cheat on you. Try to put it out of your mind and give him a chance. Jealousy, anger & fear are very destructive emotions and can ruin what were perfectly fine relationships. If you're jealous, maybe you have low self-esteem? If you felt secure in yourself, you'd see that he's with you and not with someone else. If those negative feelings remain, it could spell disaster. Maybe ask yourself WHY you feel those things? People do do strange things but you know what, it's his choice and he chose you. Not everyone's the same so try and give everyone a chance and not tarnish all men with the same brush. No-one can guaranteee whether a relationship will last a week, a year, a lifetime, but while you have it and it feels right, enjoy it or you may bring the ending closer than it would have been!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2006): Er, well there are honest guys unlike the guy who would risk your feelings for a girls phone number. And risk it "just to see". Yes, there are real men out there, unlike this gutter rat.
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reader, shania +, writes (1 June 2006):
 I might sound harsh here but if a woman is offering herself on a silver plate,i would say most fella's would take up the offer (if they knew they could get away with it).. However your boyfriend is being immature and insensitive for taking other girl's number's down....why?...if he has you?..You said its because he is trying to see whether he has "game" or not,is that what he told you? Sounds like a feeble excuse.If he truely loves you then he wouldn't feel the need to look elsewhere.Saying that...you are both young and maybe he feels tied down....who knows? You are entitled to being jealous and angry if you feel your boyfriend is playing silly games....ask him what he really wants...say to him,that you are not prepared to playing second fiddle while he collects girls phone numbers...its just not on.I wonder how he would feel if you started collecting other fella's phone numbers?
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